i dont know whats wrong with me i cant have sex with someone else and i love my husband but i have dreamed about threesomes with my husband well thats normal but how about these my husband and two strange guys banging me in my three holes and then a girl walks in me her and them just do everything.im in the mood all the time when i think of them forcing me to do things so many things... i would never but whats wrong with me seriously
2007-01-10 05:47:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Fantasies are just that...just because you have the thoughts doesn't mean you have to act on them. I have some really odd fantasies too and I won't act on them. But then again, maybe you can sit down with your husband and find out his fantasies, as well. Maybe the two of you can find some common ground and really enjoy each other more now then before...
2007-01-10 05:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest, compared to some things I've heard of (okay, and some thing I've thought), your fantasies are sadistic or sick. They sound completely normal, albeit a bit on the rough side.
But you know what? It's fantasy, and that's okay. Whatever helps you mentally is perfectly normal and acceptable. You know that you would never do these things in real life, and that's the entire point of fantasy. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. More people than you'd think fantasize about all number of 'sadistic' things being done to them, or about doing them to others- it's just that nobody talks about them.
2007-01-10 13:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You just have really HOT fantasies. But that is the key word - FANTASY -. Maybe all it means is that you and your husband need to "spice" things up a bit. I don't mean to act out your fantasy I just mean maybe try some new things. New positions, new places, maybe some toys. Try things that will leave you more fullfilled and satisfied. Being in a relationship for awhile, you sometimes fall into a routine and yes this gets boring after awhile. Talk to your husband see if he has any ideas and then compare them to yours.. Agree on something "new" to try and then enjoy yourselves! Have fun!
2007-01-10 14:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by burnettebreeze98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just described my life as it is right now.
There isn't anything really wrong with you but that it sounds like you are not "satisfied".
Have you talked with your husband about this?
If you want to keep this just between you and your husband then I would search for a "mild" bondage site or pick up a mag from an adult store and give it to him asking if there is anything he would like to try.
For myself I am involved in a group of 8 both men and woman one of whom is my mistress, room mate and lover (I am BI so I guess they are all lovers) and I sometimes serve all of them (more info than you probably want but I am setting an example).
If you decide you do want more than one partner at a time this can lead to many problems (e-mail me and I will repost an answer I have posted to this very question).
As for a three at once, it is a little difficult and unless you are a limber, nymph (Like me) and willing to deal with being uncomfortable for awhile to please three guys at once. That also one reason I mentioned the bondage as being in a three for one is an extremely submissive thing for a woman and if this is something you want to experience than you may like the other as well and can try it with just your husband.
For the most part, the fantasies are normal, men have them too, probably more than we do.
I can go on with this for a while, if you want more drop me a line.
2007-01-10 14:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The closest thing to "sadistic" in what you wrote might be if you wanted those others simply because you want to get your husband hurt or disappointed. I noticed the expression, "them forcing me".
What you have described is called masochism (well, that and that your hormones are cooking-big time). That is a horse of a different color. Commonly, females are sort of expected to have feelings on that side of the coin. It is the kind of things that feminists tried to liberate women from, but human sexuality is a tad bit different from socio-political movements.
Talk to your husband. He might not go for the extra participants, but maybe you are needing a little more aggressive behavior on his part. It is a dream, remember, so look for elements of it that might be satisfying now and then.
2007-01-10 14:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual fantasies are like a rainbow. They can take different colours and are nothing more than reflections of your suppressed mind. Like you can look at a rainbow and enjoy it, you can cultivate these fantasies and enjoy imagination. But you should remember that a rainbow is an illusion formed because of an immacculate blend of sunrays and rain drops and hence, can not be brought into life. So are the sexual fantasies.
2007-01-10 14:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Cyphor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you sexually. Fantasies are generally harmless.
Perhaps your sex with your husband is getting rather ordinary (boring) and your mind just starts to think of things to make it more exciting.
Talk with your husband. You don't actually have to engage in a 3some but you could pretend that you are (you need a good imagination).
2007-01-10 13:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really, we all have fantasies that we wish we could enact. As long as it is not affecting your relationship with your husband or your sex life I really see no harm in having it. Its when it does start to interfere in your life that you may have a problem and/or you just really need to talk to your husband about these fantasies you have in order to get them out.
2007-01-10 13:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mike Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a sign that you feel guilt or depression in your life and you feel this type of degrading sex would be appropriate for how you feel. i think we all go thru strange fantacy phases. it could be a sign that you aren't completly happy with yourself and would like to try something else.. but overall, i don't think it's anything to worry about.
i have really strange and sick fantacies now and then. it's just a way to relieve tension and get my frustrations out..
i fantasize about things i would never do, nor want to do, but it can just be exciting to fantasize about the unknown..
2007-01-10 14:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with fantasys darling
I fantasise all the time (Kira Knightly and Angaline Jolie mmmmmmmmm)
Keep on fantisising about what ever you want even if you never want to act on them
2007-01-10 13:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋