it anymore he left the house in such bad repair that it cost me and my family nearly 10,grand to make it habitable for me and my kids i have been paying mortgage now for four years with no help from him but he says that if i sell the house he wants his half of profit to go to his kids i would like to sell as the area is terrible but if i give the kids his half i wont beable to buy another property due to lack of funds also he didnt pay anything towards the house repair and i feel i will be left out of pocket how can i get round this as i cant afford a solicitor and cant get a mortgage on my wages alone he also does not pay me any maintenance for the kids we lived together there for 10 yrs he had it for 3 yrs alone while i moved out but i have now had it alone for 4 years
2007-01-10 05:45:56 · 13 answers · asked by happylove_bunny 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You have to take this to court and order him to pay child support. Secondly, they have programs to help single mothers in living situations, check your where you live for money grants, there is plenty of low income mortgages available.
2007-01-10 05:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's name is the house in? Are you the Mother of his children? Are they adults now?
Why have you let him get away without paying child support? This is the first thing I would take care of, is getting your child support. If the house is in your name alone, you won't owe him a dime. If it's in both names, maybe you could work out a deal, telling him you won't go after the support if he signs his half of the house to you. If you are the Mother of his children, you could have them use their half of the money to put down on another house and add their names to the title. Nothing wrong with using their money to invest in a home for all of you to live in. Otherwise, I don't know what to tell you to do. But I wish you the best and hope it works out in your favor! Men are such deadbeats!!
2007-01-10 05:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ask my self every day why people get into messes like this. What were you thinking? Anyway there is no simple solution to the mess you have. When your ex moved out you should have had him sign of on what is known as a quit claim deed. But I doubt if he is going to do that now. You need a good lawyer and an injection of common sense. Under the law he has every right to claim his half. You may be able to deduct half of the mortgage payment for the four years you have been paying it, but that's subject to a court decision.
2007-01-10 05:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by yes_its_me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Place a lien on the properrty for the amount of money you paid for the repairs. When you sell the house, the proceeds will go towards the payoff, realtor commissions, title fees, taxes owed and any liens against the proeprty. What is left will have to be split between you and your ex, but only if you are both on title. You will at least make more money by getting paid for the lien in addition to your share of the proceeds.
Don't be so quick to give up on the possibility of getting a lona....there are plenty of options available out there and many are aimed at helping lower income individuals get into homes of there own....there are grant programs, the My Community Loan....you should consult a Realtor (free and they can help you learn where to file your lien) and a qualified lender (free and they can give you options available for a person in your situation) to discover your options. Also, do research online regarding your state and local grant programs offered to assist low income people into getting housing. Finally, you can contact your local Habitat for Humanity to see of you can qualify for one of their homes or if they can direct you towards resources that will help someone in your situation get into a home.
2007-01-10 05:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have kept receipts on file for repair to the house in order to move in. This way you may be justified to withhold 10 grand if you are forced into giving him half the profit from the sale of the house. Whose name is on the title to the house? Just his, just yours, or in both names? By not paying any maintenance for the kids... do you mean you have not received any child support? What you really need to do is hire an Attorney. Go to your local Legal Aide. They will go by your income on what you will have to pay them. And, if you do take your husband to court, you can sue him for court fees and lawyer fees if he loses the case.
I wish you luck on this. You and your children deserve the best, so don't give in and don't give up.
2007-01-10 05:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants half he has to cough up half the refurbishment costs!
Are you married? If you are he may well get half if he pursues it!
Whose name is on the mortgage? If his is as well - he may get half!
Go to a solicitor - some do first session free so at least you will get some good advice. You may even qualify for some form of legal assistance toward your fees
2007-01-10 05:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the grammar guy. You need some schooling to learn the basics of writing english. Maybe a little education will help you to get a better job. It is not clear as to whose name the house is in. Is it both equally? You said that he had it for 3 years alone. If the property is equally in both names, then he gets half and you get half of what is left AFTER the mortgage is satisfied. My opinion is that you should do the minimum repairs that it takes to get the house in saleable condition, sale it, take your half of the proceeds, he will get his half, and move on.
2016-05-23 05:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest speaking to the CAB. they might be able to offer some advice for free without having to pay a solicitor.
i would suggest you should work out the amount of unpaid maintenance for the kids he owes you and deduct it from his share aswell as the amount for repairs you made. then his share would at least be a lot less. so you would have a greater amount for a new house.
2007-01-10 05:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could speak to your x and tell him you are selling up to move to a better area for the sake of the children, because i cant see it making any difference because if any thing happens to you your children would inherit the house anyway and if you remarry you can still have it that half the house belongs to the children and the other half to your new husband
2007-01-10 05:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are his kids yours also?
and are they under 16 years?
if so then if you sell he is basically saying you get all the money to buy another property for you and the kids
i don't think he see's it this way tho
i assumme your in the uk?
if so go to your local law centre and find out more about your rights
it's free and will help more than here
2007-01-12 08:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋