2007-01-10 05:39:39 · 22 answers · asked by Jacks036 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally agree with you... you know my wife and I have up and downs but we still love eachother so much ya know.
2007-01-10 09:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is nearly impossible. However, the key is to not let the romance be gone. There coul dbe a myriad of reasons that got you here. But you have to remember what it was that brought you together. If your both stuck in a work, eat, sleep routine and barely spending anytime together, you need to remember what you are working for, each other. Remember those first dreams you had as a couple of owning your own home or maybe a family.It can be really difficult if you two have been really blunt with each other lately and maybe keeping a cold shoulder. Neither one of you will want to make the first step, but I say the responsibility lies in you since you took the initiative to ask for help. Try doing something different. One example, was when my wife went and got he hair straightened, which is normally pretty curly or always kept up in a ponytail. Suddenly she looked like the young girl I married. The whole time we went out to eat I couldn't keep my eyes off her. We quickly retired home, found a babysitter, and went to bed while it was still light out. It can be hard to make the first step but it is worth it onc eyou do. You will also likely inspire him to begin making moves. Even doing something over the top can really break this rut. Even if you did some sort of silly thing you see on TV where the woman dresses in a sexy lingerie and is overly seductive. Even if you both end up cracking up laughing, it will still force him and you to realize the great lengths you'll be able to go. One final suggestion I would have, is to find a project you two can tackle together. This forces you two to be on the same team. I really hope this helps, good luck.
2007-01-10 06:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by XeroAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance is something that should never leave a relationship no matter how long you have been together.You said it all ,,love and respect. If you have that then that's alot more than alot of couples have. So go out, buy some wine glasses and a cheap bottle of wine if needed, cook some pasta, light a few candles around the house and start something that never should have left.It doesn't take much to keep romance alive.. Good luck.
2007-01-10 05:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can still love and respect each other...but tell me, why is all the romance gone? Wouldn't it be fun to find the romance again? Leave little love notes around the house, put on romantic music and dance around a candlelit room, offer a hot bath and a back rub after...put the spark back in the relationship.
2007-01-10 05:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by ibsweetp3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no romance then the love will soon fade. You need this like an ingrediant to making a cake because you can't make one without flour, eggs, milk, etc. Add all the ingrediants and follow the recipe then it's a cake. There's alot that goes into a marriage and keeping it together. You need everything you started with and keep it going. You may have to be creative and spontaneous but you do what you do to keep the spark going.
2007-01-10 05:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear,
Yes, 95% of marriages over 5 yrs old there is usually not much romance , but plenty of love. Once kids, and mortgages come into the picture it doesn't leave much time for romance. You should still, try for romance at least once a month or so, try dressing sexy, and getting a little knotty! This will certainly put a log on the fire, to get it to burning. Just relax when you least expect it he will probably rock your world or better yet you rock his !
2007-01-10 05:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by babybuds 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can...but why would they want to?
Life is too short to waste on a bland existence. If you are not actually happy to be where you are...then you need to change that, either by rekindling the existing relationship, or finding a new one.
There is no one keeping score out there, and you get no points for suffering. So if you want to stay, change the situation so that it gets the spark going again, and if you want to leave, then do so, don't stay because it's easier right now...it won't be the easiest in the long run.
2007-01-10 06:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats when you need to spice up the relationship. Find a new why to romance each other. Usually the guy is suposed to romance the girl, but to be honest guys like to be romanced too.
2007-01-10 05:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married 30 years 11 months. sure we are nevertheless very lots in love. we've positioned our marriage formerly all else. Made it the bedrock we've geared up our lives upon. We communicate all the time, each so often yell, yet constantly communicate. Sorry to hearken to of your tough situations. i wish it relatively works out for the two one in all you. stable success
2016-10-30 13:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by lobos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If romance is gone, then I would strongly suspect there may be a dent in the respect/like category.
2007-01-10 05:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. How could the romance be gone if the respect and love is still there. Sounds like one of you got tired of the sex and you want someone to tell you that's normal. It's not normal. That is the number one reason people divorce. If you love your spouse then why wouldn't you want to be romantic with them? Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-10 05:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋