I have briefly spoken with my boyfriend of five months about marriage. We have been living together since the second day we started dating. I know we rushed into that but, honestly it was for the best because we got to know each other better quicker. We started telling each other, "I love you" about a month and a half after we started officially dating. We didn't know each other but for a couple of months before we started dating. When I talked to him about it he said that he didn't want to rush into a marriage because he saw that his sister did that and she was left with a son and divorce papers...which I understand, but when you know you know, right? You can tell we love each other the same amount. I do all the housework (he works a lot more than I do) all the time, and I love to and he appreciates it. We even act like a married couple. How do I know or how do I drop more hints that I am ready? I just need advice, I suppose.
2007-01-10 05:34:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Slow down there girl. If you want him to marry you, then you need to give him more time to make sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You haven't even been together long enough to want space yet. A man needs a few years to make sure the woman is the right one. If you keep pushing him, he's going to walk out the door. Marriage is so much more than keeping the house clean. You are both going to have bad days and hard times. This happens to everyone. It depends on how you both handle yourselves in these situations that will determine how much marriage material you are. Stop dropping hints and take this time to learn about him. Just enjoy your time together and have fun. Thank you and GOD bless.
2007-01-10 05:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation I have know my former boyfriend for 6 years and we have been dating now for over a year. We started living together 2 weeks after dating. We are not married but we act like we are. He says the same thing he doesn’t want to rush. I understand and feel the same way. Don’t feel down he will do it eventually. I have talked to people about it and they say if he doesn’t after three years he won’t. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, right.
2007-01-10 05:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by acm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just about everything you said described my own relationship. we moved in together as soon as we started dating. we lived like a married couple. then he deliberately got me pregnant. (what a weirdo) he was talking marriage at 3 months. he had no problems with rushing into marriage. we are now married with our first child together (i have two from a previous relationship).
he made it known he's hesitating. what do you want? how long are you willing to wait for your final answer? no hints. point out ask him when he thinks is an appropriate time. and think if you want to wait that long. there's is nothing wrong in wanting to seal the deal. if he still can't give you a straight answer and you want something better, then leave. no ultimatiums. just leave. you deserve a straight answer.
2007-01-10 05:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you moved in on day two and are already acting like a little wifey - doing all his cooking and cleaning...
WHY WOULD HE MARRY YOU! He doens't have to take the financial risk, now does he. This is called why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. Honey - he's got everything he wants.
2007-01-10 06:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea! That is way too fast. Enjoy eachother as long as both of you are ready. You don't want to be the only one ready in the relationship. He will then feel like he is doing it just to make you happy and not himself. 5 months is not enough! Trust me. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have lived together for a year. We just got engaged and trust me I'm still learning things about him that I didn't know. Just take your time and wait at least a couple of years. At least you know both of you love eachother and are happy. That's what counts.
2007-01-10 05:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by BlahBlahBlah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will be married a YEAR in april but we have been together since december .we married 5 months after we got togather .it been good but we have had are hard times . i think it will last but before you do the same make sure you know him and he knows you . i had to learn the hard way and so did he. we work passed all that but you never know if its something you can get over .there pass will hurt when you get married and not knowing everthing can make for a sad ending . it will happen when you both are ready good luck
2007-01-10 05:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by kimberly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, he's not ready. You can drop all the hints you want but if he's not ready then you will not see your wedding day. And besides why should he be in such a rush to get married when he's got it all now.
2007-01-10 06:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you're not alone, I've been with my b/f for almost 2 years and he still hasn't asked me but we have brought up the subject and talked about it before, you know, the "one day" conversation. He will ask you though when you are in the right financial situation and when you are both ready. Dont stress out about it though it will happen for you. : )
2007-01-10 05:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by jessie_speicher 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My youngest daughter lived with her now husband for four years before they became engaged. They had a couple of common goals (finishing school, finding a job, etc) they wanted before they got married. There is no right length of time - when its right you both will know it.
2007-01-10 05:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will ask when and if he's ready. You shouldn't even be thinking about it until he asks. Whether you are ready or not - it will happen when it's right. Life is too short - stop rushing it.
2007-01-10 05:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋