I have an acquaintance who is extremely materialistic and likes imposing her opinions and her way of living on me. Talking to her is just simply boring to me because there’s usually one main subject: money. I do not envy this person AT ALL and I am not interested in how her business is doing, how big her house is, etc. If that’s the way she likes to live that’s fine, but I don’t like to be told that I should be this way too. I don’t think she’s happy in her life and she just seems very insecure in general.
I am starting my own business and what I do is very artistic and creative. I consider myself very lucky because my job is my real passion and joy. My job requires constant learning and developing the skills which I love as well. It does take time to start making good money in what I do. I had a few clients already and right now I am working on my business advertising. I believe that everything in life should be in balance and I try to live like that. Making money and having a business is only one part of my life but it is not my reason to live or my main goal in life.
Now, I don’t know if I am oversensitive or wrong about it, but it really makes my angry when my acquaintance asks me “Do you have any clients?” EVERY time she talks to me. Isn’t a little bit like asking somebody if and/or how much money they’re making? Isn’t that pretty impolite? This person does not have very good manners in general anyway, but that’s a different story…
Another thing is that this person likes giving advice even though I never asked her for any advice. She tells me what meetings I should go to, what are the best advertising strategies and what the best things for my business are. She’s not telling me all of this because she sincerely cares about me. It’s more like trying to intimidate or control me…
I realize that I cannot avoid dealing with people like her in my life and I would like to ask what are the best ways/strategies to respond to people asking you questions like that? What do you say to people like that?
2007-01-10 05:28:48 · 10 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would give her a short and to the point answer such as , everything is going as expected thanks and just stop there. If she presses tell her you prefer keeping business and social life separately and don't talk about it when not busy working , it is your time after all. good luck they can be rather boorish .
2007-01-10 05:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a few in every relationship. I find the best way to deal with this is say: " you had already asked me and I answered that question." Also" please when I need advice or help I will ask" Or just faze her out as a friend. And all this can be done with kindness and if that doesn't work plain speaking.
2007-01-10 05:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very sad to say, but you are facing one of life's great dilemmas. Many insecure people like your friend, will never change because who they are is defined in what is all material
and of course never really achieve a true life balance. So stay true to yourself deal with your friend with a long handle spoon but always be honest concerning your relationship with her on how you feel.
Terra P.
2007-01-10 06:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
Yes, you are right, people like that will always be around BUT you they don't have to be in your life.
I have simply thanked them for their comment, idea, opinion, etc. and moved on. I have found that arguing with them, trying to make them see your point of view, etc., simply fuels their fire and they'll always have a rebuttal leaving you feeling controlled, imposed upon, and the like.
I know we can't avoid people like these if they are your coworkers or classmates but we can limit the time we talk to them, hang around them.
It's your choice!
2007-01-10 05:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by sirensong98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very much like you in my way of thinking.I don't like controlling people who seem to gain something by acting in such a manner.People that you must deal with on occasion or even everyday that are of this nature are best handled by killing them with kindness.It simply overwhelms them and they are stopped in their tracks.You can try to ignore her but usually they won't let you. Just kill her with kindness...she is probably not used it. lol!
2007-01-10 06:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time your acquaintance offers advice, just say, "Thank you," and walk away. If she asks if you have clients, say,"Thank you for your interest," and walk away. Eventually, she will get the idea!
2007-01-10 05:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep a humorousness. comedian tale with pals who also have a similar sort of off-beat humor. deliver humorous e-mails returned & forth. Being type & tolerant is mandatory in this society. have you ever been to the food market around supper time whilst all and sundry is waiting to bypass abode? they are drained from artwork & aggrevated & hungry. all and sundry can help to alter the international around them with tips from being purely a sprint nicer, being grateful & appreciative of what they posess & understanding we are all interior a similar place.
2016-10-06 23:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so simple.
Make your acquaintance see YOU as a highly sought after commodity by becoming SCARCE!
2007-01-10 05:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are going to run your business the way you want it run.
2007-01-10 05:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by RamontheGreat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't.
2007-01-10 05:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by MBK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋