I took over every wifely duty. I made the lunches I fetched the towels and clothes. I took off his boots. I put a lot of love into this person. I had sex more often the I desired. I let him watch porn as we had the intimacy. I went beyond my boundaries to please this person. I gave him a beautiful charming daughter. She is wonderful. Why couldn't he step up to the plate and be the man he should have. He wouldn't find a good job to take care of us and I was willingto work. He had me living in a moldy house and didn't do anything to get us out of there I had to make all the calls. Why didn't I get my fairy tale ending?
2007-01-10 05:21:10 · 21 answers · asked by :o) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He didn't want to move. He liked living rent free. I kicked him out and the moved into the cutest little apartment.
2007-01-10 05:30:31 · update #1
because you gave too much... to the wrong person.
sorry... .
2007-01-10 05:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is pitiful is that you made it sound like every day you catered to me. I lost all attraction to you due to the fact you cheated on me( which happened more than you ever told me) You were only half hearted from day one and I know this.
I tried to find a good job and things didn't work out, but I w3as still trying, but considering we live in the poorest economical area in the US , it was very difficult. You suggested I try telemarketing!! Now there is a great job. I tried fixing the house and spent many days and alot of money on a house that was a waste. We did not have the money to get an apt. and it was only after you kicked me out that your family finanally helped you out, or you would still be there!
Next question please give me some credit cause I look like a complete ***, I hope you feel better.
2007-01-10 17:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Seerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common let down... We as women think that if we nurture a man, any man with some potential, that he will grow to be the best he can be. We think "who wouldn't, I mean look at all he's got on the line, he's got it made!" But the reality is, it just doesn't work that way. People typically give us a good idea of their capabilities and motivation level by how their past has went. There's a saying that the best judge of a man's future is his past. And it is very true.
The best rule to follow is to find someone that you really love unconditionally, that you can endure the worst with, and enjoy having around because of who he is- not for what he can give you. And I do not mean that in the shallow sense. I mean you really have to love the man for what/who he is as an individual, like his: humor; his belief in whatever; his intelligence; his ideas; the way he smiles when ____; and things like that. Because life can hand you a lemon at anytime and you gotta be able to adjust!! You have to find some sort in happiness in just loving a person for who they really are. And when you committ for these reasons and give support motivated by just wanting to love him, you will get way better results and it will never seem in vain.
I'm sorry you are going through such, I know how it feels. Hopefully you can move on and select a partner who really deserves your love and support unconditionally. Good luck with your search.
2007-01-10 13:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fairy tale endings do not exist, it is something the world has implanted in your mind...to later disappoint you. You never listen to anybodys promises. Live in the here and now. You set yourself up for disaster the first time you believed his lies. I say, wake up or you will be in the same boat with the next "prince charming". Learn from this and be there for your daughter. Good luck!
2007-01-10 13:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because Fairy tale endings only happen in FAIRY TALES!
Life sucks doesn't it, then we die.
One thing you can teach your daughter is REALITY! no one is perfect. And people do make mistakes.And that's okay it's all apart of life.
Some men are just cowards when it comes to stepping up to the plate. I know you love your husband, but unconditionally? you did all those things for LOVE right? maybe you were blinded by your own mental picture of him. You gotta see people for who they are not what their SUPPOSE TO BE.
2007-01-10 13:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say he bought into what society teaches today, being that it's the me first attitude. He was being very selfish, and thinking only of himself. I know, I fell into the same trap, and my wife and I seperated for about a month over it. Thankfully we got back together, and went through marriage counceling. But when she left, it was the slap in the face that I needed. We have 3 kids together, and she took the kids. That snapped me out of it. And made me realize that I had to quit putting myself first.
Now I have my priorities in order and I put my wife first, then the kids, and we are alot happier than we have been in years. And our marriage is stronger than it's ever been.
But the reason you didn't get your fairytale ending was because he only thought about himself.
2007-01-10 13:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasue fairytales are just that...fairytales. Life is a mixed bag hun. A check list towards happiness is nonexistent. He didn't step up to the plate because he's NOT a man. I hope the moldy house didn't make any of you sick...
2007-01-10 13:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you chose wrong!!! You made the choice just as much as he did!!! Are you married??? Or just living together??? You need to make some decisions, living in a mouldy house is not healthy, you need to get out of there!!! Get out before you are all sick, if nothing else.
2007-01-10 13:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fairy Tale? Funny how reality has a way of sneaking up and slapping us in the face. happens all the time, you are not alone
2007-01-10 13:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a little boy inside of a man's body. Never ask a boy to do a man's job.
2007-01-10 13:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you married a jerk just like I did - that's why I refer to him as my "ex" now. Some guys just cant be men. False promises and false hope always win our hearts over and then one day we wake up to the reality of the fact that its not all that we thought it would be.
2007-01-10 13:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by jst_lv_me_alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋