2007-01-10 05:01:09 · 13 answers · asked by john t 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You wanna get it--you have to give it. It's being selfish to expect someone to do for you something you are unwilling to do for them. That's a part of love --the give and take. You have to deal with it.
2007-01-10 05:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand the question but the way I am reading it is your wife doesn't want to do "the deed" while she expects the "deed" done to her during foreplay. I am married and wasn't a big fan of "the deed" myself, but I didn't feel I was good at it. I decided it wasn't fair if I expected that from my husband but was unwilling to give so I do it...I've actually now found that I rather enjoy pleasing him and it always leads to something for me anyway. When in a relationship there is no room to be selfish in the bedroom unless the other half really doesn't mind.
2007-01-10 13:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dissolvo Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Fair is not always a mathematical concept. She may not like to -- for instance--do the laundry either but she'll do it if you don't demand her go down on you. That's a compromise on her side which she wouldn't mind because she loves you. you on the other hand may not see it that way. It's always fair to meet the other person half way. Also, modest women or women with a religeous family (or training) find it extraordinary to have to do that. A ton of loose women out there don't make it easier either. I'm not saying women who do that are loose, certainly not all of them any way. I'm just saying don't apply math to human relationship and try to understand where your partner is coming from as opposed to holding it against her. You have made compromises for her also, haven't you? A relationship is worth every effort you put into it. Wish you happiness.
2007-01-10 13:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never do anything you are not comfortable doing. BUT... if you are receiving and not giving, your partner is going to stop giving, too. Fair is fair. Worse yet, your partner might decide to find someone else who likes to play fair. Hopefully for you they are not that shallow, but if you really care about this person's pleasure (and want to keep receiving), you may want to get over your dislike of it. Otherwise, be prepared to stop receiving, or you may need to find a new partner that is more in line to your tastes.
2007-01-10 13:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's up to you totally.But if you want your man to go down on you don't hate that your exspect you to do.Two way street there so just find a man who doesn't want head ever good luck.
2007-01-10 13:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by jean l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. i personally won't do it for neither my bf or my husband. i don't know if I'm going to let him doing to me either because i don't think of it as a nice thing.
2007-01-10 13:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, men do it all the time! Why not. Not all women like to do that. You should only do what you like and want and are willing to do.
2007-01-10 13:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by BellaLuna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about this if ur gf likes it then thats good but if u do not like it then you should let her kno but do u like it when she goes down at u
2007-01-10 13:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by traviesa15 g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't expect my hubby to do anything to me that I wouldn't be willing to do to him.
2007-01-10 13:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This women enjoys it!!
2007-01-10 13:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋