NOT say that...because most people 51% do not stay married...and where i live some people have been married 3 times..some leave for better reasons than others... but they still leave...cuz you aren't suppose to stay if SOMEONE BECOMES ABUSIVE, AN ALCOHOLIC, OR A DRUG PERSON OR WHATEVER THE REASON...SOME people said.."i would NEVER LEAVE MY HUSBAND..."..YES YOU WOULD IF HE CHEATED ON YOU OR THE ABOVE MENTIONED STUFF...plusit would not be good for the kids,,,,COMMENTS PLEASE!!!
2007-01-10 04:56:21 · 13 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life is too short to stay in a miserable marriage just because you are "supposed" to.
If you are not happy, and can not foresee being happy, by all means get divorced! Why live miserably just because your misery doesn't qualify as abuse?
Sometimes you don't figure it out until after your married...not reason to live with past mistakes.
2007-01-10 05:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're in an unhealthy environment or have just fallen out of love and there's no way to get that spark back then yes you should leave. If you don't want to be together than why would you waste your time, there's so little time in life as it is. Shouldn't we all spend that time living with as much love as we can find? And don't say that its good to stay together for the kids. My parents split when I was a baby and I have never known any different way. My mom I lived with happily and my father I would visit on weekends and during the summer and it was great. Then, my mom divorced my step father, who raised me since I can remember when I was in my twenties. It was horrible! If I wasn't a person who had learned to rise above it all it could have very well ruined my life instead of just complicating things. Plus, I'm very glad that they were still together when I got married. My father was there too and him and my mom got along great! Can you imagine what a disaster it could have been with my parents hating each other because they'd ruined each other's lives?
2007-01-10 05:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason most people say them is because the day they get married they cannot see anything but bliss in their future. I myself have endured the better and worse in my 11 yr marriage. He had an affair ( very good grounds for divorce) but I stayed true to my vows even though he didnt to forsake all others. He admitted his mistake and shows great remorse. We are all human beings and make mistakes...some bigger than others. I chose to forgive. We have been through counseling and even renewed our wedding vows! I think if you are in a mature relationship, you have to try to correct the issues that come up. If you are not willing to at least try 'for better or worse' then you shouldnt be getting married. Im so glad I chose to honor my vows because now we have a much stronger relationship and communicate 100% better than we did. We do not take the small things for granted anymore!!
2007-01-10 05:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True, if your spouse is abusive or cheats on you, divorce is the right thing to do.
But let's be honest here. How many of those 51% of couples got divorced for those reasons? Usually it is just because of "irreconcilable differences" which means they don't care enough about the marriage or the other person to work it out and they would rather give up.
Yeah, marriage is forever. Except in rare instances.
And they ARE rare.
2007-01-10 05:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by GeekGirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you get married and say those vows, at that moment in time, your intent is to stay with that person until death. However, things happen, like you mentioned, which casues divorce.
Instead of telling everyone what they should and should not say at their wedding, do this:
Someday when you get married, only say what you truly believe will be the truth in 20 years and see how that works out for you.
2007-01-10 05:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your right. If there is a reason of what you stated above than you need to get out for your safety and for the kids. I think the problem is people these days are getting married to get married and don't want to put in the work it takes to be married. Marriage is not just a piece of cake you have to work with your spouse to make a marriage work.
2007-01-10 05:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by #1techfan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the marriage vows for better or worse, the worse part
are the problems one has in the marriage and they
should try and work to get rid of the problems. They just
don't pack up and run: Of course if the problems can't
be resolved and it effects the relationship in the marriage
then a divorce takes place, but time has to be given to
at least try and resolve the problems, and because none
of us are perfect we all should be given another chance
if we prove that we are worthy.That's what it means for
better or for worse.
2007-01-10 20:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a different tolerance level than other people do. All things can be worked out by both parties if they really love and want to change! Nothing is impossible. You cannot say for sure what you will or won't do until you have been in the situations you mentioned.
2007-01-10 05:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
K well I dont get why you are so worried about people saying to stay together for better or worse....whats the big deal...you know what if my husband did any of that (besides being abusive) I would work through it with him...not just walk out on him when he needed me most
2007-01-10 05:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your vows say for better or worse. Chances are, if he is abusive, he was abusive before marriage. HOWEVER, you have grounds for a divorce when your partner refuses to work on an issue in the marriage such as addiction, abuse or infedelity. Personally, when I make a promise in front of God and my family, I will do everything I can to keep it. The promise is only as good as the person behind it.
My question to you is, smart ***, why do people make these vows to another when they obviously have no intention of holding true to them?
2007-01-10 05:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋