How can I can her without hurting her feelings that I'm not intersted.
2007-01-10 04:42:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be calm and polite when you tell her - "I'm flattered but, sorry, I'm not into women"
She'll still hurt (hopes dashed) but she'll get over it and you'll be able to keep your friendship.
2007-01-10 04:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She is a good friend so you should sit her down and have an honest conversation with her. It might be inevitable but there is a chance that her feelings are going to be hurt.
Ask her straight forward if she is hitting on you first.
If she admits, tell her you really are into men and value her friendship but her making advances makes you a bit uncomfortable.
Make sure to tell her she is by all means an attractive woman and great person to be around but alas your feelings are just friendly not affectionate nor sexual.
Have fun and laugh it off. If you have another female lesbian friend and think they could get along, make sure you play cupido.
If you don't want to do the honest sit down thing, catch her in the act. When you feel like she is hitting on you, just ask her with this very surprised look, are you hitting on? With yes or no, just state that she should know better and that you two are good friends and that's it. Tell her you are not curious and value her friendship. Then continue to ignore the subject.
Good luck and one more thing don't discuss it with other friends.
2007-01-10 04:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by BF S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree you need to just tell her. Alot of lesbians ive noticed seem to get a crush on straight women, i guess its just the thought of it. But if I have a crush on someone straight i would rather them tell me they are not interested instead of thinking they are leading me on. Some women do that not even knowing it. Good luck
2007-01-10 04:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by leez692003 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to join the club. Just tell her you appreciate the attention but you just arn't interested in her as anything but a good friend.
2007-01-10 08:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your friend she'll understand,friendship is more important
2007-01-14 03:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by biggal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't feel ready for her, and that if she's really your friend she'll understand you and respect your wishes.
2007-01-10 05:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Khali 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say, I'm not interested in you, but i will help to find you a partner.
2007-01-10 04:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be honest with her and gentle with her feelings....it will work out like it's supposed to in the end...
2007-01-10 04:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey______ I really dont like it when you hit on me.... We cool and all, but I just dont like it. Could you please stop. Thanks
Good Luck with that!
2007-01-10 07:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her.
If she's your friend, she won't be offended. Just let her know you're flattered, but not interested.
2007-01-10 04:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋