guys in my new school r troubling me a lot pass comments n give me gushy notes writing that they love me i m not use to it as i was studying in girls school earlier i ask my friends that why does the guys do this although i have never even talk to them or even look at any of them then they say bcoz u r extremely beautiful thats why they do it its affecting my studies as i m a topper of my class.
2007-01-10 04:39:31 · 17 answers · asked by a rodd fan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know some very beautiful women who report this same phenomenon. Guys assume that beautiful women are easy and that they whore themselves out. You need to learn to ignore them and find some friends who like you for the person you are, regardless of how you look.
Chances are, some people will refuse to be your friend because they will assume you believe yourself to be better than they due to your good looks. Don't let that bother you either. They're just jealous. There will be a few decent people who will treat you the way you deserve, even if they find you attractive.
2007-01-10 04:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with anything in life being beautiful is not the problem. It is how you handle your gift that makes all the difference. Boys area always first attracted to looks. When you get older you will find that men worth your time while attracted to your looks will find more importance in your personality.
As hard as it may be right now you must place your concentration where it belongs. Ignore the guys..they are all trying to get your attention. For them to call you his girl would be a very proud moment but have little to do with the real you.
I have never had this problem so cannot truly tell you I know how it feels but try your best to ignore what they do. Another thing you may have to face is that if all the boys are after you the girls may get a bit jealous.
But the most important thing you can do is to not take advantage of your gift. And trust me...most people see it as a gift. Never ever take another girls boy away. Your problems with boys will be minor compared to the fallout from that.
2007-01-10 05:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days beauty seems to be the one thing that gets a guys attention when he wants to talk to her or try to ask her out on a date although beauty can have disadvantages. It really how you see it , I am sure those guys have a reason for passing you notes and staring at you constantly. Just don't let it get to your head or you will have more problems then you want to deal with. Beauty is only skin deep, what really counts is what is on the inside. If people can't see that then so be it.
2007-01-10 04:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a disadvantage cos i hate the attention i get and it has been known to get me bad situations. But i still like 2 look good sometimes. In your situation jus don't let it get you, take it as a compliment. Jus try 2 ignore it otherwise it will continue 2 affect your studies and it's not worth that.
2007-01-10 05:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some times it is because guys want to date beautiful girls and some times they don't care about getting to know the real person. My advise is to keep ignoring them and just keep doing your things they way you have been doing it, and don't let them get you nervous.
My other advise is to keep concentrating on your studies, don't get distracted by this silly things; remember that you will have a life time to meet guys and only once you get to learn the things you need for your future, don't let it distract you, they're not worth it, your studies are.
Good Luck!
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2007-01-10 06:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think if you keep acting and talking this way, other girls will start to resent you. And not even because they are jealous (though that is probably part of it). Its because it comes off as arrogant when you say stuff like "Oh, its so hard being so beautiful." I'm sure you like the attention, and that's why you may be trying to get more of it here, which is kind of pathetic.
Just be yourself and don't get to full of yourself.
2007-01-10 04:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people might say that it is not because being beautiful gets you w/e you want. just like money. But in your case it seems like it is. But really it's not. Guys are guys. They will always be tht way when they see a beatifull girl/woman. Just ignore them or tell them to stop and you'll be able to focus more.
2007-01-10 04:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by iulia f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be a burden but just keep your priorities straight and keep focused in school. Guys can always say that your beautiful but that won't help you with getting an education. Just take it as a compliment and move on.
2007-01-10 04:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Neon Ballroom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is bothering you so much you should imagine how girls who arent blessed with beauty must feel they never get attention and if they do its b/cthey are being made fun of you should take their gestures as compliments and further more tell the guys who say they love you that they dont know what love is b/c they know nothing about you and when you love somebody you love who they are their personality their interests and whats in their heart they know your dreams and respect them and obviously they dont even know you so when they say they love you they really just admire you
2007-01-10 05:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding right? Studies have proven that if you are good looking you get along easier in the world. But don't let it go to your head, true beauty lies within and even if you are drop dead beautiful if you are ugly inside no one will want to be with you long term.
2007-01-10 04:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by ted j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋