Is it important to you to be the biological father of your child ? How would you feel if it turns out, say because of an dna test that you did to be sure, that the child of your gf/wife you have been a father to has been fathered by sombody else ? Would it be no biggy ? Really serious ? A reason for major anger ? I posted it in the women studies, because it affects also women.
2007-01-10 04:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I love being a father, and I would be destroyed if it turned out I wasn't the biological father of my son. It would be unbearable. I wouldn't be angry, but something about it would make me feel a sense of loss, even though my "son" would still be there. There's something about being the father of your biological child that hits an apex in a bond that is not comparable to the bonds you have with anybody else.
2007-01-10 04:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instant end of the relationship with the mother. No hesitation. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
As for the child, this would largely depend on how much time had passed. There would always be a residual feeling of the child being a living, breathing reminder of being cuckolded. However, if enough time had passed, and enough of a bond had been formed with the child, then I'd still want to retain half custody of it.
Children need their fathers. This is a basic fact that has sadly been forgotten in recent years. I'd consider it important to continue to be a part of the child's life, even if the mother were scum. Perhaps especially so. Would you want your child to be raised by someone like that?
2007-01-10 04:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Major Major anger. It would most deffinatly be the end of any relationship between me and the mother. I'd prolly try to at least get visitation rights with the child tho.
Thats whay a fathers name should never be placed on the birth certificate without a blood test.
2007-01-10 04:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by GuZZiZZit 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, do you really love the woman? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her and no other? Secondly, is she honest with you? Did she tell you that you were the only one, the baby was yours? If she told you that, and the baby turned out to be some other dude's, then you are basing your attachment on a relationship grounded in lies. Will you ever be able to trust the woman again? As for the baby, they are incredibly easy to love and raise whether they are yours or someone else's. It is a matter between mom and dad, not dad and baby.
2007-01-10 04:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Scott K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely upset. But I would still care for the child. Like the other men said you would feel a certain joy in having a child that is biologically yours.
2007-01-10 05:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Black Like A Tar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sure, I'd be pissed if I found out my wife had slept with another man! But lets say 10 years had passed and I had raised the child as my own for all that time before finding out? I'd love the child no less than I did before.
2007-01-10 04:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you feel about your gf/wife having sex with another guy. For me, if it happened during a three way, I guess I would be alright with it. Otherwise, there would be some child support in somebody's future or possibly a divorce.
2007-01-10 04:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks its very important to be sure you are the boilogical father to your child, because if you had any doubts you wern't, it would then mean you are doubting yur partner, and thats a whole other question.
If i started going out with some1 when they were pregnant with someones child, i'd gladly accept them as my own, but id have to be in love with the mother!!
2007-01-10 04:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by TP 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would be pretty upset, yea, because i want MY name to live on, not someone elses, and while the child would have my name, it wouldnt be my blood, and thats what i want, for my line to keep going. so i would be upset, but still love and care for the child, and try to make my own.
2007-01-10 04:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
major anger. but mostly because the woman betrayed me.
I would still love the kid, and wouldn't be mean to him or anything like that. But it wouldn't be the same.
2007-01-10 04:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋