I am: 30 years old - from Lebanon AND my friend is: 38 - from UK. And we do have different religion but we do like each other. But He wants to jump to a physical relation without really improving other sides in that relation like our love & friendship ….
I tried to stop this relation but it is not working will I am really afraid that he will pull me to x and that is not allowed in our family.
What to do I know he have no problem for it and he is putting too much effort on that “does not seems respecting much our traditions”
2007-01-10 04:24:10 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have the choice and only you. He can try his best to push you but if your not ready then you can stop him. Don't let him push you into having sex if he doesn't want anything else invovled and you have that choice.
2007-01-10 04:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself. Different religions can work, if they do it's only because the two people involved aren't very dedicated to either of the God's that they serve. Your beliefs in God base how you live your life and how you treat others. If those things are different between two people it's very hard for them to stay together. The bible says "How can two walk together unless the agree?" If you're going one way, and he's going another you can't go to the same place together. You'll either have to let go of each other or someone is going to get dragged there unwillingly. No one likes to be dragged anywhere.
2007-01-10 12:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be your first love, but you're clearly not his--otherwise he'd respect your wishes, traditions, etc. Girls have a lot more responsibility in physical relationships than boys, and him pushing you means that he's way to immature to understand the ramifications of the responsibility he's asking you to undertake, not only physically, but culturally according to your traditions.
The sensible thing is to call it off and never see him again. But then, when was love ever sensible?
Good luck, kiddo.
2007-01-10 12:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Woz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone means that you are willing to accept them and all that omes with them. If this man is not willing to accept that engaging in a physical relationship is not something that you want to do, then he cannot say he truely loves you. While it may be a sacrafice for him to wait, he needs to be truely understanding that you value your religion/culture/morals and this is not part of what you do. I believe that there is some true feelings that he has for you, but take some time to think about what those feelings really are. And most importantly, do not sacrafice your values and beliefs for him.
2007-01-10 12:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where he comes from it is acceptable to engage in sexual relations after several dates. Consider telling him that you do not believe in having sexual intercourse until after marriage, but you understand that he feels frustrated physically, and you are prepared to help him relieve that frustration; at first manually (with your hand) and maybe eventually even orally (using your mouth) after being together for a considerable time.
2007-01-18 01:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you asked and you the answer but you looking for any body to push u to do wrong i am lebanese too and it is strctly forbiden to make sex in our community before mariage and u know that if you do it what you will happen if he left u .
my advice is never do some thing such
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2007-01-16 13:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't even have to read the details...
If you're asking this... Then the answer is probably yes!
2007-01-10 12:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not his 1st love. Even though he may be yours, you have to be careful
2007-01-18 01:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well then its not really your first LOVE then is it??
2007-01-10 12:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by goddess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋