He's tells me we 've never been good and it's all excuses.He's gone in everyway but has not left the house and says next mo,he will be moving out.I don't know what to do ,say or help my situation.I can't imagine my life without him,I love him more than anything.....I've already tried to face reality,I need help in my behaviour towards my relationship with him as a wife.He also asked for the divorce.
2007-01-10 04:20:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon, don't be afraid, you need to divorce him. You do not deserve to be treated in such a way. Instead of imagining life without him, imagine all the good that can come to you, imagine a life with you and someone who treats you well. You can't change him, and shouldn't even try. He probably broke every vow he made to you on your wedding day. Find your anger!!! Sure you will probably be sad for a while, but you can be happy again, and time will help you heal. Get your courage and self esteem working for you. Find a good lawyer and get all you are entitled to. Pack up his stuff in boxes and leave it outside your front door, or even hire someone to hand deliver his personal belongings. Show him and yourself that you are a person who deserves some respect. If you stick up for yourself, you will find an incredible strength inside and it feels good. You will sleep better at night and be happier if you can believe you deserve some basic human respect.
2007-01-10 04:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to grab as much of the commonly owned money as you can in the next month. Get your own credit cards separate from his while you still have his income to use to get them. Can you afford to live in the house? If not then you need to find a different place to live at least temporarily. Dont wait until he walks out the door to do these things. Make sure you have copies of all important papers, birth certificates, marriage license, mortgage papers, bank statements, passports, insurance documents. If your husband has lots of money then take a video of all the expensive things in the marital home. Big tvs. stereos, jacuzzi, etc to prove the "lifestyle" you are accostomed to. Take him for all hes worth and then some. Maybe his girlfriend will support him.
2007-01-10 04:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the divorce, and have him out of your life as soon as possible. He's moving "next month"? How about tomorrow? Or, start looking for a place to live for yourself. You have to get away from him for things to even start to get better. You can't "imagine" your life without him because you're out of practice. You had life without him before you met him, there will be life without him after he's gone. Believe me. What you "feel" now is not the truth. It will be hard - but you WILL get over him in time. 15 months is not that long to invest in a deadbeat relationship, you will have plenty of chances to find someone who respects you and is happy to be with you. Have your friends and family help you - it's important to surround yourself with a supportive network; you are now very vulnerable, you need help from caring and understanding people. After my husband walked out, I went to live with a friend for a little while, then my mom flew in and helped me move to a new apartment; everyone was checking up on me and generally being there for me. It would have been much more difficult to dig myself out was it not for the help of my friends. Good luck, just take it one day at a time, it does get better!
2007-01-10 04:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband has been emotionally abusive to you and is not a very good person. I think you need to face the fact that this "man" doesn't love you or wish to be with you. I know it can be hard to come to terms with that reality because you don't want to let go but he mistreats you and doesn't show you any respect...Let him go and start moving on with your life. Don't fight the divorce because this guy doesn't want to work things out. It would be like torturing yourself to try to salvage a relationship that is clearly over...
Good luck to you...
2007-01-10 04:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetheart, I don't know! You probably have to let him go. If he discovers that the grass isn't greener on the other side, and he comes back to you, then you will have to decide then if you will take him back, but for now it sounds like he is leaving regardless. Stay strong and don't beg him or trap him into staying or he will be resentful and him staying with you for your reasons and not because he loves you, well that isn't good for either of you. I wish you the best.
2007-01-10 04:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the divorce. He's probaly not in love w/another woman but just wants to get out of the marriage. You should seek counseling so that you can deal w/this and maybe take him to a marriage couselor before you all just throw it all away.
2007-01-10 04:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by daprty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your plight..
Time to move on..
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
Make more careful choices in men next time.
Good looks & Charisma are not enough for a long term relationship.
2007-01-10 04:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HIM GO!!! As the old saying goes, "There are more fish in the sea"! Just keep telling yourself he was too small and didn't know how to work it. Then check out the guys doing construction on your way to work.
2007-01-10 04:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dallas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously just be grateful it has only been 15 months not 15 years. Let the loser be, even if he wanted to work things out you could never trust him.
You will find someone who appreciates you. Ask him to leave. He will regret it.
2007-01-10 04:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go. you are better off without him because he does not love you...so why try make it work?? he will only be bad for you in the end, and you will be drained. get help, and say good buy...time heals ALL
2007-01-10 04:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋