I've never met my dad and my sister found him recently.I'am 30 years old is it weird to want to talk to him because he was never there for me my sister or my mom.Iam mad at him but i want to about him,because if i know him maybe i'll understand me...
2007-01-10 04:19:59 · 10 answers · asked by michael j 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm 26. Raised by my Mom who is black with an absent white father. I found my father on the internet 2 years ago. At about 22 I realized that whatever I was holding on to as far as anger and stuff, I was just going to let it go. It wasn't solving anything to be upset at him. Did he deserve it? YES! Was that going to change my childhood? No. I'm glad I let it go. When I finally caught up with him, he enlightened me so much on where my people come from and famous people I'm related to and all types of stuff. My father is 65 he still has all of his hair and teeth, I needed to know that kind of stuff. No cancer runs in his family (Thank God). I KNOW now that I'm an only child instead of just assuming. We have a lot of similar personality traits and I was raised nowhere around him, you'll like finding out why you do certain things.
To answer your question...My friend it's not all weird. That's a part of you that you don't know. For you to WANT to know it, it's not weird, it's real. God's Speed to you my friend. I hope whenever it happens, it's a blessed event.
2007-01-10 04:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think its weird because I'm 18 going on 19 and i haven't met my father since i was 4 and i still want to meet him.Im also mad at my father but i guess you can't hold a grudge on him for life, you just have to move forward.
2007-01-10 04:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by *~Pretty Smile~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird that you have a desire to talk to your dad even though he didn't raise you. It's normal to want to find out what happened and I would say go for it and I wish you the best...I would want to know who my dad was and find out more about his life. It may open more doors than you realize. It will make you feel better about who you are now.
2007-01-10 04:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to want to know him. That doesn't mean you have to be friends with him. I never knew my father, but know where he is. I am 35 and have been debating years about contacting him. I want to know his heath and to know how much of me is him. I feel resentment towards him never wanting me and I still don't think I am ready for the meeting.
I say go with it and meet him. Let him see how good you turned out without his help. It could help with the anger if you meet him and hear his side of it(not that anything is good enough) and then tell him yours. ... Good Therapy.
Good Luck,
2007-01-10 04:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not as we grow we realize who we are and learn so much about ourselves that it gets us thinking why and how so we try to find who we are, the main source of who we are comes from our parents sometimes because we were not raised with them does not mean your not part of them there is qualities of him that remain in you that you may not understand. If you meet him it might help you solve ? about your feelings and actions that you just were not sure where they came form just remember, your half dad and half mommy. BEST OF LUCK!!!
2007-01-10 04:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by I need to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you feel this way because he is part of you whether you realize it or not. Have you ever put together a jigsaw puzzle and lost a piece? You were probably frustrated, right? That's how it is when you are missing a parent in your life.
2007-01-10 04:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think it strange at all i never meet my biological father and sometimes i think about looking for him just to fill in some of the blanks you know see his eyes and his heart im just curious ! but i have not taken any steps to do so and I'm 37 yrs old .
2007-01-10 04:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by sadeyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not strange for you to want to meet your real father. In fact that's common. You want to know where you came from and why he left and that's ok.
2007-01-10 04:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not weird. i think it's perfectly normal, no matter how much pain he has put u through. u need 2 know so u can better understand him and urself.
2007-01-10 04:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by stefstudy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is natural to want to kno where your genes came from, and know what attributes you have aquired from him
2007-01-10 04:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Roofio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋