My husband works in the same industry as my dad in the next town over. Because of the way hiring goes, most of the people who work with my husband have worked with my dad before, and they know that he's being considered for a job opening four hours away.
The rumor mill is also alive and well in this profession, so my husband heard through the grapevine that Daddy would consider taking the job, and insinuated that he's having marital problems and that would influence his decision.
In the past three years, one of my stepsisters have died from a drug overdose, and another is constantly getting into trouble with drugs, not holding down a job, and she's lived with my dad and stepmom off and on (she's in her twenties), so they have had a strain on their marriage.
Is it wrong for me to ask questions to try to find out if this is true? Yes, I am burning with a need to gossip, but if it's going around in my dad's work and beyond and it weren't true, wouldn't he want it stopped?
2007-01-10 03:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Asking my sister will be a short conversation. Either she knows something or she doesn't.
Asking my dad would turn into a two hour discussion, filled with "don't tell your sisters" or "don't tell [your stepmom]" or "don't tell [your husband]" (this happens EVERY freakin time we have a candid discussion) and if it's true I'll have to listen to him justifying it. I know my dad, and I would almost for sure side with my stepmom.
2007-01-10 04:09:24 · update #1
no i would not necessarily say its wrong you just want to confirm right?? In the end its still your dads decision who and who not to be w/ correct???
2007-01-10 04:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it turns out that most gossip is true there is always the time when it is not. And gossip has no way of knowing the whole truth.
The worse part about following up on it like you want to is what if your step mom and sister are the last to know. One side of you has to say but if it's true they should know but the other should say but what if it's not and you scare them unnecessarily. Your dad may never forgive you or your husband.
Food for thought. You know your family better than we do so I hope it all works out for them.
2007-01-10 04:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is better to stay out of the whole situation.Remember you only have gossip to go on. Your asking questions could relly cause some family problems.It is not your business to play detective and gather information.
Work places can and are some of the worst gossip places in the world.
been there heard it and witnessed it.
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2007-01-10 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gossip needs aside, you should be interested, it's your family. Why not just ask your dad??? Obviously, he would know you are aware of the talk. At least that way you will have it from 'the horse's mouth'. The most he can do is refuse to answer.
You are not wrong.
2007-01-10 04:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is obviously reacting to the diversities that are occurring in her existence. it is commonly used for a new child to act up in those circumstances. she will quiet down ultimately. as on your dad, he and your doorstep mom ought to have a severe communicate approximately her habit and are available up with a plan of self-discipline so they are in a position to the two be on a similar website. it is going to take the two one among them to deal along with her and her habit till she simmers down. perchance you could communicate on your dad (privately) and tell him that he and your stepmom ought to communicate approximately it, because of the fact if she runs her little mouth too plenty, DFCS will step in and then all hell will spoil loose. i would be praying for yall, yet this something that your dad and step mom must be dealing with and getting a carry of. good success!
2016-10-06 22:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by banowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to ask if you're asking for the well-being of your family, if you're truly concerned about them. It's not ok if you're just wanting to be a gossip and "get the scoop". This is your father you're talking about. Are you that insensitive?
2007-01-10 04:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask your Dad directly. Go to the source. He is your father after all. He may NEED to talk to you about it.
2007-01-10 04:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just ask your Dad directly?
2007-01-10 04:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop it, let it go even if it true don;t step in like that and they don;t told you so they try to keep it a secret
2007-01-10 04:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u felt that right
2007-01-10 04:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋