What makes a girl sleep around and not care about how many or who she is sleeping with? Want attention from anyone that will give it to her.. and she knows she has a great guy that is willing to give his all to her and treats him like her b/f when she "feels like it" - how can someone string him along when she knows he is in love with her and will trat her right? any feedback would be great..
-nice guy trying not to get hurt again
2007-01-10 03:51:03 · 17 answers · asked by Moto 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ask her Father what he did to her to mak her like that?
Or if he wasn't around? Ask her mom what she did from a young age that the daughter watched and learned as a result. Ask her if she then accepted step father after step father (some which may have abused her?) in her mothers desperate attempt to snag a man before she got too old...
It is an old story and more common that you might think.
Most men are intelligent enough not to take it so personally that they fail to understand that the reasons are usually deeper than and have absolutely nothing to do with them. But God forbid anything, not have everything to do with them... you know what I mean?
Right now, you are self loathing and playing the blame game without realizing the rest of the story. Now, you too are intelligent enough to understand... Everyone learns everything eventually.
Consider yourself schooled! Either love and accept this kind of girl... or stay away. Your need for the drama she causes is only going to hurt her more and reinforce her own beliefs on men and her own worthlesness... People find one another to cement them into their negative mindsets. Accept that is what both of you have done and either love her and prove her wrong or move on!
Daughters
John Mayer
(Heavier Things)
I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
But she's just like a maze
Where all of the walls all continually change
And I've done all I can
To stand on the steps with my heart in my hand
And I started to see
Maybe it's got nothing to do with me
Fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daugthers, too
Oh, you see that skin
It's the same she's been standing in
Since the day she saw him walking away
Now she's left cleaning up the mess he made
So fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
Boys, you can break
You find out how much they can take
Boys will strong
And boys soldier on
But boys will be gone without want for a womans good, good heart
On behalf of every man
Looking out for every girl
You are the god and the weight of her world
So fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
2007-01-10 04:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What many people do not know is that many girls who"sleep around" have been sexually abused in their childhood. This is probably something she keeps quiet about so unless you are close to her then don't ask, if you are close to ther then ask and try to help her seek counseling.
If she has not been sexually abused then she is just a straight skank.
You have to remember that this girl probably has been treated like "crap" all of her life and she is use to it, so when someone treats her nice she does not know how to accept it and finds it awkward.Trust me, I've met many people like this and it is usually the case...If you treated her like crap you would have gotten much further with her....Ask her how she was treated while growing up,chances are abuse and neglect were somewhere in her life....
You are obviously a totally different person than her and are more than likely not compatible...Take it from me,a person who knows many girls like this;STAY AWAY FROM HER.....even if you do have some kind of relationship with her you won't be happy because she will still be sleeping around with other men...
If you want her in your life you need to get her professional help which she will more thatn likely object to so GOOD LUCK !
Find yourself a nice girl who has respect for herself,who does not have mental baggage and will love and repsect you.
2007-01-10 04:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by srhlun1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be harsh but, have you thought that if she was a guy you would call her a stud? How many men have slept around and acted like a slut while a nice girl has waited for him and been hurt? I know pointing this out doesn't help you and I am sure you are a nice guy but I think you are wrong to judge her too harshly. How many of your guy friends behave like this?
The bottom line is, what do you really want? If you want this girl, you are going to have to live with her behavior until she is ready to change. If her sexual behavior puts you off, you are going to have to find another girl.
2007-01-10 04:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that feels... Best thing is to just let her go cause she will hurt you if you keep it up. She knows that what ever happens she will always have you to fall back on so she just doesn't seem to care cause she knows that you'll be there. Holding on will only make it worse and i have the experience to prove this. I missed out on alot because i was to busy watching out for "the girl of my dreams" when honestly she wasn't it. After a year of getting away from this girl i found the girl that really was what i wanted and is way better then what i was going for before its just that i was blind to every other girl because i was trying to get one that didn't care to feel the same way i did. It's not easy though, but its in your best interest and you'll get more out of life if you just let her do her thing and you do yours.
-Another nice guy who got hurt but didnt stay down.
2007-01-10 04:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by fire_914 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a girl who has had a lot of pain in her life, and living the way she does is most likely a way to put the hurt out of her mind and feel wanted and liked at the same time. Of course this is not healthy, but to her it's better than facing the pain she has experienced. When you treat her well, she probably sees something in herself that she doesn't like, you are loving her for who she is and she doesn't like who she is. I would advise you to just be a friend to her, without any hint of romantic feeling. She might appreciate someone who doesn't want to just sleep with her, and if she can't recognize someone who has her best interests in mind, you need to look for someone else.
2007-01-10 04:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by john smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't fix people who are sick; nice guy needs to be responsible and find someone who is available to him on every level; why are you so willing to settle? She is just not that into you; now go find someone who can love you on the same level; it could be saying something about you if you are ready willing and able but continue to invite this person into your life; your issues could be that you are not mature to find a person who can be in a serious relationship ; time is precious; you can be a friend when it is convenient for you but you need to find a person who can be in a relationship with you b/c this one is not and probably will never be - tick tock tick tock
2007-01-10 04:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls are cold-hearted, vindictive, back-stabbing b!tches. If you are talking about your "girlfriend" I would dump her as soon as possible, she's going to end up giving you some kind of crotch rot. Society has sold sex so much that most females think that sex and love are the same thing. They think "hey, this guy wants to have sex with me, he must really like me!" They don't seem to realize that a lot of guys will sleep with anything that walks on two legs.
2007-01-10 04:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest she is a waste of time, she aint gonna change obviously, it seems like you are a very caring person and your vonrable, those people get takin for granted, and left with nothing in return
now in her mind she knows your her sucker and you wont leave, girls like that play games and if you stick around your gonna lose hun
she aint worth the air your about to breathe and the life you are liven.
now if you dont want to get hurt again i suggest you call it quits
there are plenty of fantastic women out in this world thats looking for a nice guy like you right?
think about it share your love with someone pure
not towards someone who doesnt deserve it
good luck hun and i hope you figure out wats best for you mentally and physically
2007-01-10 07:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just has a problem becuse i dont do that to my bf, and if she cant get enough satisfaction from you shes going to get it from others, she may be using your love and sex , but when u buy her things she feels like she can get what she whants and youll never leave her side anyway. the attention getting thig has to stop if she thinks that attention is good more likeley shes not going tocome to her senses. if it doesent work out mabey you need to put your foot down and tell her whats wrong and whats right, if she dont straighten up then its time to leave. hope this helps you.
2007-01-10 04:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by chika_cherry_cola007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They treat the guy like that because they know if he really loves her he won't leave. That's wrong but it happens. And most people now-a-days only go for pleasure, they don't care who says what about them as long as they feel good.
2007-01-10 03:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by xI Crusader lx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋