My 19 month old wakes up in the night and im pregnant and getting stressed?

Question

I am 20 weeks preggo and I just feel like I am falling apart. My 19 month old does not listen to me....listens to his dad...but that doesnt help as i am the one home all day. He wakes up about 12 and 2:30 every night. Sometimes he gets himself back to sleep sometimes not. Lsat night he was up from 11:30 to 2 and woke up again at 3 and up for good at 5:30. I know my hubby works, but How can Iu get him to help. even just so I can get a short nap to feel better about not sleeping and maybe feel better about myself. I'm fallin apart!!!!HELP!!!!!!!

I realiz e i am the parent...Let me clarify. It's not htt athat bugs me. I want to know how to get my hubby to be a little more helpful now. How do i approah him, how do I ask him for help. I love being a mom and I wouldn''t trade either baby for anything in the world. Just wondering how to get the much need ed help from hubby. but i would think that teh popel with the rude answers are not parents are u?

Answer 1

1. You have to let them know who's boss: Your 19 month old does those things to you because you allow it. Everytime he wakes up in the middle of the night march him right back into bed. Be firm in your request, you have to let him know that you are the parent. and if he kicks and screams let him throw his fits, he WILL get over it as he knows and understand he cant win and get his way, you will find that it will get easier to put him to bed. During the day when you asks him tp do something do not beg him tell him it's either that or time out. and set a limit of 10 mins and make it 10 mins. At this age he is testing you and testing his limits to see how far he can get. You have to stop this now before he turns five and it becomes his teachers problem when he doesnt listen to her.

2. As for your husband, you have to let him know raising a child is 50/50. Yes he works but as far as I'm concerned you have a job to. Raising children and being a stay at home mom is no easy task. Tell him that his job doesnt end when he punches out at 5: 30, let him be aware that you shouldnt have to ask for his help at home, and DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT under no circumstances negotiate with him. tell him this is how it's going to be.

You have to take control, the woman is the one who holds the household together. you have to make them appreciate you girl. get to it now before it becomes out of hand!!!

Answer 2

You have got to try and get him on a regular schedule. Start putting him to bed at the same time every night, crying or not. In order for you to keep your sanity your husband needs to step up and help with this (if he wants all those babies he had better start helping out), and tell him that. It's going to be very hard to establish a bedtime schedule but be diligent, remember it takes 21 days to develop a habit. Also don't be afraid to let him cry, it sucks hearing them scream but you have to establish some ground rules. Don't teach him that Mommy's gonna come running every time he cries. Regular naps every day will help out too, plus that will give you a chance to relax. At this age you have to start putting your foot down, because the terrible 2's are right around the corner. Establish the rules now and you'll be happy you did in the coming months. Good luck!!!

Also remember, if he minds Dad he will mind Mom too, just don't be a pushover.

I'd like to ask Forever and FlyChick's Mother's how they behaved when they where 19 mos. old. Learn some respect!!

Answer 3

I'm actually battling a similar issue. My 12 month old will not go to sleep before midnight and I have to get up at 5:30 every morning. So not much sleep for mommy. I've tried letting her cry, tried everything, as I'm sure you have too. The only advice I have is to take a nap when he does during the day to help you catch up. You need the rest especially since you're pregnant. Don't feel guilty about it, the baby needs it too. And remember, it's OK if your little boy has to cry for a little while in his crib or playpen as long as he's not hungry, wet, hurting, etc.... If he knows mommy will come running everytime he wimpers, he will keep doing the same cycle. The one thing to keep telling yourself is that they're only little once, and one day you'll wish you had a "little" boy to worry about.

Answer 4

It's called being a parent. Deal with it. You should have thought about things like this before having kids.

Answer 5

should have thought befor you started getting pregnant about the consequences of a baby, yet alone two babies. you just have to deal with it, because YOU are responsible for them.