alright, i dont want ne bs answers only genuinly respectable answers. . .
my boyfriend & i started dating a while ago and now we are expecting our first born in about 3wks. heres the delimma: he was married before for about 8mo and then they divorced. but when i was 4 1/2 months preggo he "disappeared" for 2wks and i found him at his best friends house with her. hecheated on me with his ex wife. i thought we were happy didnt think anything was wrong at all. 1miserable month went by and i couldnt kick the thought of how much i terribly missed himand the thought of raising our son by myself. exactly 1mo after cheating he called me and told me how sorry he was and that he left her (again) that he was scared and frustrated (sexually) and bc i couldnt stand the thought of not being with him i took him back. and now (almost 4mo later) everything is great again but everyonce in a while i completly throw it in his face & start a huge fight. dunno if its hormones or what. would you trust him?
2007-01-10 03:19:13 · 10 answers · asked by JENN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not a matter of trust so much as moving on and getting past this. If you want to be with him then you have to forgive or it is never going to work. Throwing it in his face is not the right thing to do it will only cause more problems down the road. He made a mistake, not that I condone that I do not. However if you have taken him back then it's up to you to move past this. If this is what you want then you need to make things work, it will be best for your child.
2007-01-10 03:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad truth is that once a cheat almost always a cheat. I think the only guy who cheated and never did it again was Dr. Phil. Throwing it back in his face just to get a reaction from him probably won't make things better. Have you considered couples counseling? There is the life of your soon to be born child to consider it this, and not just the relationship between the two of you.
2007-01-10 11:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by anthony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, congrats on the baby !! My advice would be this... If you want him in your life and child's life then you have to tell him that you forgive him for what he's done (cheated w ex). If you can't get over the fact that he cheated... it would be best to move on. There won't be trust in the relationship and only problems will continue. So, either forgive & forget or move on.... I hope that you follow your heart in making this decision... Good Luck !
2007-01-10 11:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very natural for u to show anger on him because he has cheated on u, and that too, when u were in a vulnerable condition. If i were u, i wouldn't have trusted him hun...i know u r probably very upset. But u have to keep in mind that people do change..If u really love him,you can give it your best shot by trying to help him out. But u have to be strong.Don't let him break your heart no matter what happens.
2007-01-10 11:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You might regret taking him back. A similar situation happened to me a while back. There are times when I am so mad at him for things that happened long ago. You never really regain trust after something like that.
2007-01-10 11:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not trust a boy that will not grow up for what ever reason, he wants the benefits of a man, money, women, sex, but not the responsibility, of celibacy and sticking with just one person. time for him to grow up and you should keep better tabs on his time if he is not at work then home with you are out with you,
2007-01-10 11:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he called a month later after cheating on you to say sorry wow was he in bed wit her while calling you he alwayz going to be a cheater my mom raised me byherself and im a good person without a father
he will always cheat on you
and disappear on u for 2 wks while u having his baby
what does that say
goood luck
2007-01-10 11:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that hard one me personaly no because once trust is broken it hard to get back u have look inside yourself and see if he is worth it . but if u throw in his face all time . u must not forgive or trust. good luck
2007-01-10 11:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by myndi h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would never trust him non take him back you made a huge mistake by taking him back, and of course it going happen again once a cheater alway a cheater
2007-01-10 11:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to break it to you honey but ALL us guys are *****...THE ONES THAT PRETEND THEY ARE NOT ARE LYING......u are in serious trouble.....he will bang her again and again...it is just the way we work...like I said sorry...wish it were different for you but...we guys just want trim.....
2007-01-10 11:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋