sex after pregnancy?

Question

i had my son 6 months ago, and i still havent been interested in sex yes i have sex but its when my fiance bugs for it. i love him to death. whats wrong with me. its like all my hormones went out the window. its amazing when we have sex but i just never get the urge

Answer 1

oh hun, perfectly normal! dont worry, my little girl is 12 mos old now, and i just recently started wanting it again. it takes a while! one things that didnt help at all, was the stupid dryness, even with lube i would bleed regularly. i talked to a few docs, and they all said a little bit of bleeding after sex is normal for moms. i finally talked to a female doc, and what do you know? its not normal, and she prescribed estrogen cream. not only did it make the moistness come back, but it makes that whole area sensitive. (nice stuff it is.) dont take no for an answer! talk to your doc, if that doesnt work, talk to another doc, and another til you get help! women arent meant to just lay there and accept it like blow up dolls! if you know something is wrong, find a way to fix it.

Answer 2

Sometimes there is more on your mind. like when was the last bottle...how long before a diaper run... Do I have another box of wipes in the closet...hell when wsa the last time i took a shower?
Maybe you need a day off from everything to make urself feel good. CAn you/ have you left your son yet? I know some moms havent but you may want to keave him with your hubby...and go get your hair cut or colored.....or get you r nails done and buy a new outfir. Sometimes you need a change afetr having that baby to get you out of the oh, now im just his mom slump that some women fall into. And shopping is good for everyone. lol
nothing is wrong with you. It happens alot. Tryo something diff. And obviously you havent lkost a taste for sex, you still find it amazing....but you are tired and need a small break every now and then to feel like your old self again and not just a mom and wife good luck!!!

Answer 3

You are not craving it but you can perform it.
If the feelings are not of revulsion, then if you do a thing, that thing becomes more natural. Like expressing more affection by kissing/hugging every time you see each other. The more it is done the more natural it feels.
So try performing the action with the need. You might find that your "feeling" change, seeing the pleasure of your partner, seeing the improved relationship with the male half of your partnership, the release of stress from the o and exercise.

Answer 4

It is very difficult to get back into it with a baby on your mind and hormones jumping around after the birth. Breast Feeding lowers the drive. the Breast feeding Nazi group do not tell you this. So give yourself time. I am around the same postpartum as you and my hair is still falling out and I am just now dropping the last ten pounds and starting to feel like a woman again. It takes time.

Answer 5

It is normal. It took me about a year to get my urge back after my daughter was born.

Your body went through a lot of hormonal changes for a long time. It takes a while for your body to get right again.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you. Many women feel the same way. "A woman wants to know that her partner is attracted to her outside the bedroom as well as in it," says Gilda Carle, Ph.D., a relationship expert in Yonkers, New York. One way to encourage your partner to be affectionate with you is to reinforce the behaviors you like, by saying things like, "I love it when you stroke my hair." Or, "When we hold hands and kiss while we're watching television, I realize you love me even though I'm not ready for sex." You might also ask for nonsexual massages or foot rubs. Your partner should know that you appreciate his touch outside of lovemaking, and that a kiss on the back of your neck while you're tending to your baby sends shivers (the good kind) down your spine.

Answer 7

I'm not sure.... I'm due in 5 weeks, but I've heard it's normal to lose your interest for a while.... Your body's gone through mega changes. I've been told it thinks like "Ah! I dont wanna go through that again!" I've also been told you do, eventually get over it. Good luck and congrats on your new son!!

Answer 8

It's normal..but if you are really concerned, talk to your doctor about it. My sex drive only fully returned when my son turned 2. If you are on anti-depressants to treat postpartum depression like I was, they will kill whatever sex drive you have. Everyone is different.

Answer 9

this is normal. Your tired!!! it takes alot of work to take care of a baby! dont worry the feeling will come back. Talk to your doc they may have more ideas on how to help you out!