Boyfriend and I just moved in together. It was a online meet and long distance. Well, he assured me ALL the ex's were out of his life. He even had home number and work cell changed so no ex's would call and get me up tight because I'm insecure.
One called his work cell sunday. He called me names and said I'm retarded for even thinking the call was from an ex. He let our fight continue for over an hour and it all come down to me being right. I got ahold of his cell and called the number back. I told the ex gf I'm insecure, we were just starting a new relationship and we agreed to having NO ex's in it! She agreed with me, saying he shouldn't be lieing either. I asked how she got the new number.......He gave it to her!! After telling me his boss must of! Geez........should I make him pay for my move back home??? After deceiving me???
2007-01-10 02:57:39 · 22 answers · asked by peggin_beast 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Damn! I can't believe this is happening to you. Move back and tell him that he shouldn't call you or try to get in touch with you in a any way at all until he figures out what he wants to do and until he is ready to take this relationship to the next level. Take care of your insecurity in the mean time, good luck to you!
2007-01-10 03:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder how much more there is to the story. For what possible legitimate reason would he give her his cell phone # after going through the hassle of changing it? Why does he want to continue to be in touch with her? How many others now have his new numbers? His angry reaction and the fact that he lied when you confronted him point to his guilt. If he had a valid reason for giving her his number (in spite of knowing about your insecurities), he should have explained them.
I've been through something somewhat similar and there were alot of things going on beyond just giving an ex his number. If I were you, I'd get out while the getting's good.
2007-01-10 04:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by rhonda j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not overreact or go overboard. You demand respect and respect is the basic foundation for any relationship. He is inmature and demands attention. A lot of people love it and brag when an ex calls them. That is the real insecurity here- not you. You can play him at his own game but why bother. I would leave ASAP and learn from this and next time not move in so quickly. Take the time to know the person and their family background-- very important.
2007-01-10 03:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you thinking?
You moved a great distance to move in with an online guy.
Long distance relationship is an oxymoron.
Do yourself a favor, go home. Get to know the next guy for a while before you move in with them. That means living nearby
and dating.
Have you figured out yet why its done this way?
2007-01-10 03:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he don't pay for the move back home then you'll never give him another chance and it'll be over.
Try and get to know each other better with a long distant relationship before you move back in together.
Just go out for a while, be friends first.
2007-01-10 03:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by coffeemate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 12:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't finish unpacking if I were you. You want to start this relationship based on lies?
p.s. although in your case your bf maintains a little too much contact with ex's, if you are SO insecure you are going to freak whenever the phone rings because it might be an ex, you are DEFINITELY not prepared to move in with that person. You moved WAY too fast in this....
2007-01-10 03:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! (He shouldn't have to pay) You must learn to trust your boyfriend because you aren't the only women that he knows and it isn't realistic of you to think that he should eliminate people from his past. If he is going to cheat, he will do it. It has nothing to do with him speaking to his ex because he can find a new woman to cheat with. Besides, why were you in his phone? That is very childish.
2007-01-10 03:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what , if he starts deceiving you now already, when will he not. if i where you i would tell him that he could go and find someone other then you to play with and leave you alone. Because do you want to live with that through your hole life? i mean he might just deceive you all the time then.
2007-01-10 03:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he won't i would just leave because if he is lieing now he will continue to lie he sounds like a real loser how long did u know him before you moved in with him?
2007-01-10 03:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋