Am I wrong for not wanting.......?

Question

A boyfriend and I just moved in together. I admit, I didn't know much about him but thought I did.

Anyways, looking at old photos of his ex and him, I notice a few different pictures on the walls in the photos, that he has here.

AM I wrong to NOT want these pictures on the walls? I mean, their not even expensive art or anything, you could buy them at the dollar store, but I haven't brought any rememberances with me to his home that at all had any thing to do with any ex relationship. Is it ok for me to take them down and just put them away in his little work room?

I'm not sure if I'm wrong to expect to start a new relationship and expect it to be "fresh" from others.
I can see if it was all we had to put on the walls, but it's NOT!!

Answer 1

I believe that you are right to feel the way that you do, but I think that he needs to take all that down himself, don't touch his stuff, because that will cause an argument, but I think that you should discuss it with him and tell him how you feel and that you would like a fresh start and that you don't want to look at pics of her on the wall in the same house with you, its just for right and very disrespectful! Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him to remove it

Answer 2

I do not think that you are wrong for wanting those pictures to be taken off the wall. I would infer to him that you dislike them and in a literal sense could move them to his work room since they are (in reality) his pictures from the past. It is only right to not want something in your face that you do not like.

Answer 3

I seriously doubt that he has even thought about what is on the walls. Women can find more ways to make themselves miserable! It is just amazing. If you LIKE the pictures, leave them up, if not than take them down and replace them. It has NOTHING to do with his ex! This is your place now. Stop looking for reasons to be unhappy!

Answer 4

Do not remove them yourself. Tell him that they make you uncomfortable, not because your jealous, but because they are part of a time in his life that you didn't share, that he shared with another woman. Ask him if you two can go and pick out some new pictures together to hang instead. Tell him you aren't expecting him to get rid of them, that is his choice.

Answer 5

Pictures of his Ex on your (plural) walls is unacceptable. Take them down.

To have the pictures in general is fine, but they should be in a scrapbook or put up and away in a closet.

Answer 6

His past relationships and your past relationships have made you who you are today. You can't ask someone to wipe away the past, however, if his pictures make you uncomfortable because you are worried that he still has feelings for one of the past girls, then I think you have bigger problems than just the pictures. If not, then you could always ask him how he would feel if you had several pictures displayed around the place of you and your ex's. He may not even realize that it's bugging you.

Answer 7

Slowly replace the pictures with ones of you and him use the same frames and save the old pictures someplace. I bet he won't even notice. Do about 2 pictures a week.

Answer 8

It is okay to ask him to take down pictures of exes. If it makes you uncomfortable to see them constantly, or be reminded of them whenever you enter the living room, then they probably should be removed.

HOWEVER it is not okay for you to take them down yourself. They are his pictures and it may be a touchy issue for him. Let him know first how you feel, and ask him to take them down (or if it's alright for you to take them down).

Answer 9

i would want them down to, there up he must not be over her yet. ask him to take them down and tell him how much it hurts you to see them up in your (you & him) house.

Answer 10

i dont think the you are wrong