I went away to college in September (it's about an hour away) i live there all week. Friday I drive straight to work 4-11...then saturday i work 2 jobs 10-4 then 5-11 and sunday go back to school. I barely even get to see my family. I am also in Dance Company at my school. Well my supposed "best friends" are mad at me because according to them i didn't talk to them enough and that they've tried "hundreds" (yeah ok...i didn't even receive 1 phone call) of times to talk to me *online* and I either ignore them or just don't care. Now that I'm home they won't even talk to me....I just got my wisdom teeth out yesterday,not even a good luck or get better. Aren't friends supposed to be there for you no matter what??? According to the one girl I could have said "hi every once in a while" which i did when i was online and they were. Do you think i'm a bad friend or that they are wrong and should support me and put their jealousy aside that I went away to school and have some new friends?
2007-01-10 02:42:46 · 13 answers · asked by xox1sexyangeloxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Things change as you grow up. In HS you have nothing but time to socialize with friends but as you start college and work fulltime jobs your priorities change. You sound like you are in a different time in your life than they are. It's a part of growing up... your BFF's turn into people you run into in the mall. You'll meet people who are more like you as time goes on.
2007-01-10 02:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion a true friend is there always no matter what. It seems that you have alot going on in your life, and there isn't much time for socializing. It is not only their responsibility to check in with you though. You should as a curtosy to them send them a quick email or short phone call every now and then. Not saying that you haven't but friendship is a two way street. If they are true friends they would understand that you have alot going on in your life right now and accept that you are making efforts to keep in touch but it isn't always easy. If they are acting childish about the situation it could be that they are just really upset about it or it could be that they are just childish. Maybe you could send them a quick hello card in the mail or something and let them know that you plan on making more of an effort to touch basis with them. If they don't change the way the are acting then I suggest you cut your loses and make new friends. You have too much going on in your life right now to worry about girls trying to get attention. If they were your true friends though, they would understand.
2007-01-10 03:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going in seperate directions in life. Everyone goes through this at some point. Jealousy can play a part in this kind of situation. They may see your life as "glamourous" and want what you have. You will probably go through this again when you get married and have a child and even if you lose your mate. I would be cordial with these girls, but remember, your life if very different from theirs. It sounds like you are working hard and moving in the right direction. Your family must be VERY proud of you! You might even want to talk with your mom about this. Maybe she can help soothe the situation when they call. If their friendship is THAT important to you, call them up and carve out some time in the future to spend with them, or extend the offer for them to come see you, if possible.
2007-01-10 02:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A true friend is there thru and thru to the end of time. I have known a childhood friend for over 40 years, though thru the years she has moved from city to city, been married three or four times and I too have moved and had my own trials in life we have always agreed that no amount of time of space could ever damage our friendship, once we didn't speak for five years, why because life gets busy, husbands, kids, work and religion etc...when she calls me or I call her, we catch up by talking and its like we pick up right where we left off. I treasure her friendship but also love her enough as my friend in a healthy way, to let her spread her wings and chase her dreams just as she has me, if we need each other we call and I know when I need her she'll be there. Unconditional love is a rare and special gift we chose to give another person, they can treasure it or toss it aside-but my higher power once said, "If a person sins against you, forgive them not once but seventy times seven!" It is sound advice for you and your friends, remember it takes years to build relationships and seconds to destroy them, part of life not just aging it is growing in a spiritually sense too-sometimes just acknowledging their feeling, followed by a warm & loving hug saying I am sorry allows you to both grow and move forward. I hope your journey is adventerous and filled with love!
2007-01-10 03:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not jealous. They just feel betrayed by you for not trying to keep in touch. They are trying to let you feel what they felt. That's why they won't talk to you. Tell them that you do care but you have to get use to this big change as well as they do. If they are really good friends, they will forgive and understand. Right now they just feel that you left and forgot about them. How would you feel if it were the other way around?
2007-01-10 02:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Tee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can never have to many friends ignore them and move on. They are not your true blue friends. I call these kind of friends rainy days friends when its all about them and they need a friend I am the one they can't live without and that is fine because I also have real friends who are there for me and I am always there for them. Good Luck don't get upset just except them for who and what they are this will make your life easier in the future.
2007-01-10 02:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You aren't a bad friend, you have goals and a life, you have your priorities straight and that is a good thing, when you are the CEO of a big corporation and they work at Burger King then they will understand. True friends understand that life gets busy . They are being very petty and you don't need friends like that.
2007-01-10 02:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are true friends then they would understand that you have a busy schedule. Maybe you could take some time to make them feel they are still apart of that busy time, though. You might need to reach out to them instead of waiting for them to come to you. Especially if they do feel like you left them behind for something better.
2007-01-10 02:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as if you need to find friends at school, work, and the Dance Company.
Your "friends" sound immature and unfamiliar with the meaning of "friendship."
2007-01-10 02:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that they feel hurt because they don't feel like you are as interested in your friendship with them as you once were. Set them strait and tell them whats up. The rest is up to them.
2007-01-10 02:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋