so...im pretty sure im pregnant but i dont know what to do. I am 20 years old and i just moved to a new country..i dont have a job and a load of student loans and credit card bills to pay back.so im worried that what if i keep the baby, theres no way to support it cause i just dont have the money. secondly..if i had the baby, id have to stay here cause of the guy im with.. and i dont want to stay in this country but i want to go back home...and i simply cant afford not working , not at this time...
this is the worst possible time to do get pregnant and i was stupid.. and i dont know what to do...:(((
2007-01-10 02:37:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you know what you want to do. Follow your own heart and good luck.
2007-01-10 03:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by swiss girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hunny think long and hard before going down that road. Many women after haven a abortion think about all the what if's for years. Its a HARD thing to live with as you get older one day you might say omg what did i do. I am not saying dont do it but understand you half to live with this choice the rest of your life. Every year that roles by u will think my baby would of been 1 or 2 or 3 it takes a very strong women to do somthing like this and be ok with her choice so think long and hard before doing this. U should look into other choices before doing anything. GL and take care
PS: DONT let any one on here or anyone in ur life to tell you what to do i am sure you will be told abortion is wrong when you read all these answeres so dont let them people push you....
2007-01-10 10:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you need to do. If the best thing for you is to get an abortion then get one, and don't let anyone talk you out of it. It's a real choice and it's most likely legal where you are, so use it if you need.
If you want to keep the baby, keep it. There are plenty of services that are out that that will help. In fact, if you tell us where you moved, I'm sure someone will be able to put links up for you.
This is really only something you can decide. It's a hard one, but if you listen to yourself and make the decision for yourself, it'll work out just fine.
2007-01-11 15:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by RantingLover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that desicion and no one else. You are going to get a lot of anti-abortion, judgemental answers to this question. Maybe not too many since it is the middle of the day. Nevertheless, having an abortion is your choice and you should way your options very carefully. You are the only person that will have to live with your decisions for the rest of your life. Don't let anyone tell you that you should or should not have an abortion. Ask yourself these questions?
Can I live with the decision that I make? Can I look in the mirror everyday and know that I did the right thing?
Having a child is a lot of work and responsibility, whether you are 20 or 40. I am 32 and just had my first and believe me it is hard, but it is so worth it.
Good luck and remember this is your choice and your decision.
2007-01-10 10:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by karina 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't box yourself in with limitations. You don't HAVE to stay here if you had the baby. There's no reason why you couldn't return home. Especially if you give it up for adopton. I'm not necessarily anti-abortion, I just see adoption as the gift of life for so many people, including the baby and the adoptive parents. There are so many good people waiting to adopt who could love and cherish and support a child, who are mature and stable in their careers and have the resources to give that child the best life possible. Adoption is a very viable alternative. Think hard about it.
2007-01-10 10:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Touchie subject this is not an answer you want by some else other than your self.You have to know what's best for you and make a decision no matter how hard.Or how much this will effect YOUR FUTURE.Living with an abortion is really hard but not being able to provide for your child is really hard also.If your home sick and you don't want this child to become a citizen your really painted in a corner so to speak.
2007-01-10 10:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by jean l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought about that when you had sex........ Everyone knows the risks when having sex, so if you are pregnant, you have to deal with it like an adult. You have 3 choices:
1. Raise your child.
2. Abortion (which I don't believe in)
3. Adoption.
Good Luck, and remember, raisng a kid is hard work but it is very rewarding and you will find someone to share it with.
2007-01-10 10:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by nystateofmind8989 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My children did NOT come at opportune times, let me tell you! I know the pressure you are feeling, the fear and all, but I can also tell you that my children are a wonderful blessing, that I have NEVER regretted keeping them, and I am so glad that I have them! There are always programs, and people who will help you have this baby, and be o.k. I don't know what country you are in, but I know here in the US there are a lot of places that will help you.
2007-01-10 10:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be a hard deceision for you. Abortion does not have to be an option. You just have to work a little a harder to maintain your life. If you know in your heart that you are not ready for this you could take that route. Think about it. You have the right to do whatever you want to do. Remember That!!!
2007-01-10 10:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by TB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation. And, as long as you feel that it's the right thing to do, then it's your choice (I think anyway... I don't know what country your in, but I assume you have the option, since you're asking the question). Good luck.
2007-01-10 10:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by hunting wabbit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a desperate, loving couple really happy! Give the baby up for adoption. The baby shouldn't suffer for your mistake... What more generous gift can you think of.?.Giving that child life & giving that life to someone who really wants it!? Good Luck with your tough decision!
2007-01-10 13:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋