Ok. My wife cheated on me 2 years ago. We then tried to make it work out and I just found out after christmas that she was doing it again. As soon as I told her that I can't be her husband anymore, she started getting serious with her new boyfriend. He offered for her to move in with him. We have a 4 yr old daughter. We were going to do 50/50 custody, but I don't want my daughter to go from a mommy and daddy environment to all of a sudden living in a stranger's house (my ex-wife knows him for barely over one month) and getting attached to a guy who could disappear any minute, besides the fact that I know nothing about this man and do not trust him with my daughter. I want to know if you think I am being reasonable to be asking my ex-wife for this: You want 50/50? Ok, then get you own place and we'll work it out... You want to move in with your boyfriend? Ok, then I will do whatever I can to get 100% custody of our daughter.
What are your thoughts? I want to know if I'm alone or not
2007-01-10 02:37:16 · 4 answers · asked by Allinone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fight as hard as you can for full custody of your daughter. Children are more likely to be physically or sexually abused by a mother's boyfriend, than anyone else. You are 100% correct in this. Good luck!
2007-01-10 03:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100%. A good mother would not bring her children around a man she wasn't sure she has a future with.
That being said, I don't think there is much you can do. I don't think you're being unreasonable, but you cannot control her life.
Your best bet is to speak with an attorney and see what legal rights you have. Your best shot is to use this situation to prove her an unfit mother and take full custody of your daughter - do you want to go that far?
2007-01-10 02:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think u are absolutely right in asking for full custody of your child, as one never knows what can happen. think the courts will do what is the best for the child, let her go move in with the man, but don't let her take the child with her. u do not know this man, and already think he destroyed your marriage, and basically he is to blame. u need to get out of the marriage for sure, than seek full custody, why not check this man out, see what might be lurking in his past, as the more ammunition u have when seeking custody the better off u will be.
2007-01-10 02:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your lawyer about what you can do. You have to find a way to stop it if possible. That will be too traumatic for your daughter, especially at that age.
2007-01-10 02:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your prerogative and it is not unreasonable to make that a requirement of her custody.To allow her to take your kid to "live in sin" is tacit approval of that behavior and teaches the child that it is acceptable.
I would not allow my kid to be in that household.
2007-01-10 03:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋