We have been living tog 8 months,he has never told me he loves me,he says he don't know if even loves his family.I have been paying for all household bills,trips,going out,bailed him out jail,etc.I think he is using me. I asked him to tell me how he felt about me,he said "I like you",you know me better than anyone,I care about you.I feel like I am in onesided relationship,he picked up his son and went to his mom's for xmas and did not even invite me.I stayed home alone. We live like a married couple except I don't know what he does w/ his paycheck,He don't never have any money. And he makes decisions that effect household with out discussing w/ me or even telling me until last minute when he has to.We trust each other but he has no consideration for me or my feelings.Very disrespectful, Don't discuss anything w/me. I am the last to know anything, unless I overhear him telling someone.My car has been broke down and after telling him many times,I have to pay someone 2 fix,he's a mechanic
2007-01-10 02:35:18 · 8 answers · asked by ur2kewl8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know he is using me, and I am leaving him,but since I told him, he has said he cares alot for me and that this is all silly. I feel he is trying to just pretend nothing happened and hope I stay,he talks and acts like I did not tell him I was leaving.When I mention I looked at a house, he gets mad. But he says "I never lied to you". I guess, I wish he would stand up and be a man, tell me he loves me, and tell me he is going to change this and work on this relationship. When you love someone you can only hope, but I have to respect myself, unless I am wrong, the way I see it, nothings gonna change and if I stay,years down the road I will still be hurting. I can't do that to myself. Just want to make sure I have done all I can.
2007-01-10 04:25:13 · update #1
Its time to get truthful to yourself.He doesn't love you, he's using you.Your not living like a married couple,your living like roommates.Actually your not even roomates if your paying all the bills.Its easy for him to trust you because your not doing anything togetther.He's being disrespectful because you allow it.He doesn't want to fix your car because that would mean he cared,about your welfare,and he might actually put something into the relationship.You are strictly a goldmine for him,and he is a freeloader.Kick his butt to the curb and find someone worthy of you.You deserve someone better.Have more respect and self-esteem for yourself.There are good men out there,go find one.
2007-01-10 04:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by sonny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one-sided relationship will never work. It does sound like he is using you and not showing respect towards you. Communication is of primary importance and he is not doing his bit.
It is too easy to get comfortable in a familiar living situation; but you need to leave him and move on. It is never easy, but for long-term happiness you have to and the sooner the better. Make a new start now, in 2007. Take time-out and do not rush into a new relationship. Take big care of you.
Best of luck for your future life.
2007-01-10 10:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by richard555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's using you. It also sounds like he doesn't really care about you or love you. I think you need to get out of that relationship because thats a onesided relationship and those are the worst and in the end its not worth it. I think you just need to walk away.
2007-01-10 11:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by valerie_lynn82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done more than enough but it takes both people trying their best if a relationship is going to work. Don't let him talk you into staying. You've been a caregiver, not a partner. Get away from him. Get away from him. Get away from him!!!
2007-01-10 14:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a user and a sloucher to me that has no respect for women...leave him, there is lot's better out that that will treat you so much better. life is too short to be used........
2007-01-10 10:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered the question yourself. What are the pluses of staying with this user?
2007-01-10 10:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up retard!!!! he is using you. he has no job,money or respect for you. kick the guy out and fine someone who will respect you. unless you like being treated like crap. you really can't be this dumb
2007-01-10 10:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN while you still can.
2007-01-10 10:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋