how to cope a divorce???

Question

i am sad. my hubby wants a divorce.

Answer 1

It is understandable to know what it means to be sad because that is a natural emotion. In order to cope with a divorce you have to look at the pros and cons of why the marriage is taking its course leading up to divorce. I'm sure you can think of many reasons and solutions. Do not allow yourself to dwell. It won't help the divorce to not happen. Understand your husbands decision and your decision to allow it. Understand that he wants out of the union you two alotted under oath to God. Be rational. Be realistic that marriages don't always last; that sometimes the one you thought was for you wasn't.

I know that enabling yourself to move on is easier said than done but it has to happen, in due time. You have to start with yourself then move on to being able to cope with life without a significant other then life with involving other prospects. This a cycle that will take time.

I also say to you, pray, talk to God, write down you thoughts and feelings, do the things you like to do, etc. Doing these things will take you mind off the obvious and allow you regain focus on the necessary.

Good luck! And, may god give you strength.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. First, ask your husband if he will try counseling with you but if he won't, then you go on your own. If nothing else, it will be good to talk to someone about it who understands, and maybe it will help you to see the situation more clearly. Try also talking to your family, your girlfriends, your pastor.

If you are sure the marriage is over, then you must try to start making your own life without him, I know it will be hard. What are you interested in? Find a group of people who enjoy the same things, maybe a club or support group, and maybe also try something new that you've always wanted to do, like a new hobby, activity, or sport. Take a class. Do something fun once in a while, especially if you have kids. You can all start to feel more like a family again, even if Dad's not there. Don't forget to treat yourself well too, eat right and exercise, and pamper yourself a little. Get a manicure or pedicure occasionally, that always makes me feel better. Buy yourself some fresh flowers. Take care and best wishes to you.

Answer 3

He obviousely has reasons for wanting a divorce.
If your relationship has been rocky for a while and you both cant be bothered to make the effort to keep going anymore then you shoult try to accept it rather than keep asking yourself why? Otherwise it will drive you crazy.
If there is no hope for resolving the marriage then be strong and think of all the reasons it will be better if you divorce.
It will be painful but you must get through it and come out a better person.
Personally i hope you both can save your marriage.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

why does he want a divorce? the sad fact of life is--we cannot change anyone except ourselves---if he is 100% sure about this there really isnt much you can do---but after get some support---and then move on--I am truly sorry.if he is not 100% about it then perhaps its not too late to get some marriage counseling.

Answer 5

it is a tough decision for both of you but if you think it is not working out then go for it just get busy more try not to think about him but if he is the father of your kids then it is hard to forget him just do not drink or smoke do not let your health go down try to stay healthy we human beings are sensitive but heal as the time passes by so it will take some time to recover one important advice do not try to hang out too much with strange guys and try to have sex with them because you are divorced some body can take advantage of you for just having sex so try not to get out of control very much

Answer 6

get a marriage counselor
the marriage is saveable as long as you both are willing to work on it

Answer 7

Divorce is always painful... good luck... and my sympathys.