Why is it only women are allowed at baby showers?

Question

My friend and his girlfriend are going to have a child in a couple of months. I am going to give her a dozen of clothe diapers for a gift. She said that she was not going to use disposable diapers on her offspring. So I took that as the idea of what to get her. Indian cotton clothe diapers. But my question is, why is it only women are allowed at baby showers? I know most men would not even want to go, but most does not mean all. Is it because women talk a bunch of crap about us when we are not there and they will be in a a large pack. So who knows? But it's not like they don't do that anyways. So, why are men not allowed at baby showers?

*note* in case you haven't caught on, I am a male

Edit: No, she isn't even going to have the baby for a couple of months. She is not rude at all. One of the most beautifull people I know. I just always assumed that males were not welcome at baby showers. This is a general question, not a personal one.

Answer 1

That's not true anymore. I guess it's a matter of preference of who is throwing it. Most of the showers I have been to have guys there.

Answer 2

We had a co-ed baby shower when I was pregnant for my son. The women came at 4, the men at 6. We bought a keg and had a party in the backyard. You had to bring a pack of diapers to drink off the keg. He's 6 months old and I still have a closet full of diapers, never had to buy a pack yet. best part, you can always exchange them for the sizes and brands youd rather have. I know you said she didnt want to use disposable diapers, but Im guessing after 5 loads of laundry a day, plus the rubber pants to go over them, she'll end up switching. I tried cloth diapers for my kid and it was the stupidest idea and the biggest mess Ive ever made. I smelled like baby poop 24/7. Now Im Huggies all the way.
You can always use the cloth diapers as burp cloths.

Answer 3

Generally Men don't want to go to showers. It's all a bunch of stuff focusing around a baby. Little clothes, silly games, usually men don't like that kind of thing.

However, no days there are many people who do coed baby and or wedding showers. They just need to make sure to advise that it's coed so the men know they can come.

Answer 4

That's not true at all. When women have baby showers all they talk about is the baby and past experiences. And men can come if they want to. After I had my son, we threw my husband a MAN SHOWER, and invited all his buddies and did a grill out and everything. So it was a chance for the dad to participate too. Most men feel out of place going to baby showers. But there is nothing wrong with them going.

Answer 5

When I had my baby shower, my husband (fiance at the time) was there, and so was his brother. I think you should talk to your friend...it's not so much a rule anymore...I think most men are uncomfortable at baby showers, and therefore they are happy not to be invited, but if you want to go, ask himi to talk to whoever is throwing the baby shower, and see if he can invite some of his friends as well.

The only thing is, when the women start going "Oh, how cute, look at the little pink blanket, knitted by Aunt Sally" and start with the baby talk...you can't roll your eyes and say, "Oh, please! Give me a break."

I think if men want to go, they should be more than welcome to attend - just remember that if you go...you have to participate in the shower (just google 'baby shower games' and you'll see what I'm talking about ;)

Answer 6

That's not true anymore. The new thing definitely is a co-ed baby shower. I had one 3 years ago and my sister just had one 6 months ago. I've been to several, its turned into a family affair. Which it should be, why would you want to leave the daddy out of the baby celebration. I think women only baby showers are old fashion and unfair.

Answer 7

My fiance was at my baby shower and his best friend's lady's baby shower. Men are welcome at baby showers now. Sounds like your friends girlfriend is just rude. Especially about your whole gift thing. And we didn't talk crap about anybody at my baby shower, so no I don't think that's the reason. Most women just assume that men would not have a good time, talking about babies the WHOLE time.

Answer 8

All 3 of my wedding showers and both baby showers all included males. Times have changed, some people are just closed minded.

Answer 9

We had a couples shower when we had a baby. Both people made the baby and both people are going to be taking care of the baby. Why should just the woman be subjected to that kind of gathering?

Answer 10

Some people do throw 'Jack and Jill' showers to include husbands/partners. That is what I did for my sister but it was because we had the space at the time for everybody. Usually it is because it just isn't interesting for most guys. A friend couldn't make it to my wedding shower and she sent her hubby - poor guy would have been bored out of his mind if my hubby (then fiance) wasn't there to talk to. So the issue is usually about interest and then space.

Answer 11

No, there is not rules to having babyshowers. If somebody desires to throw a baby bathe for then you definately super. I certainly have had a baby bathe for all 3 of my boys and now Im having a tub for my female offspring. Its for exciting, kinfolk , pals and socializing. each toddler merits a social gathering. and you dont constantly have the toddler stuff from the previous toddler, so which you'll want new issues. Its super to have showers for all of them.