My husband cheats on me. I have tried everything I could to see my marriage works. We are married for 12yrs. I have 2 kids. He is into viewing porn & leching at woman. He says he will not do it, but rpts it. Last yr, I met a friend of his who was a regular visitor to our house. We wld spent lot of time together. I started really liking him. He is not married. He showed so much of interest in me. I even got a job thru him. Then one day, I got to know about a girl my husband was seeing. I even say her pic on his comp. I was really heartbroken & confided to his friend. He listened to my story, & said, he cannot advice him. He slowly became very close to me. One day, I even went to his house, he cooked for me & hugged me & made me do oral sex. Next day, he would'nt pick up my phone.After a few days, he wld be nice & suddenly again became aloof.He keeps coming back whenever, he wants something.I love him dearly. Do you think he loves me or is he using me. I want to end my life.
2007-01-10 02:24:13 · 13 answers · asked by bamboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being so used. What is this "he made me do oral"? You did it yourself and you keep going back for more. Don't you have any self worth. Pick yourself up and hold your head high, you deserve better than this, and the only person who can make you feel good about yourself is YOU. Take better care of YOU.
End your life? Over what? These two skanky men? Everyone has been used, it is a learning experience in life. Ending your life over these two men would devestate your children, emotionally killing them. Try to laugh at this now, you want to punish yourself over the men who have WRONGED YOU! Get up, everyday and start fresh, end it with the both of them, and seek help. I wish you the best.
2007-01-10 02:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this situation....and in a hurry. Leave for a week or two and stay with friends or family. Neiter one of these relationships are healthy. Your husband does not love you and this guy is just using you. You need to take some time to get back on your feet...you can be a better person. No guy problem is worth ending your life over.
2007-01-10 02:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what you did was just as wrong as what your husband did. Now you're being rejected by two men. Get out of your marriage, it's not going to work and concentrate on your children. The right one will come along, but you need some time to heal first. There's no reason to kill yourself just because there isn't a man in your life.
2007-01-10 02:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say that he is just using u...and i wouldnt be surprised if your husband knows about it...isnt he and your husband best friends.
though i dont condone what your husband is doing you are just as bad because u are doing the same thing..if u didnt want to be with your husband then u should of left him and filed for divorce before hooking up with his friend.. now his friend just sees u as a booty call whenever he cant find anything else...as the saying goes why buy the cow when u get the milk for free?
go to counciling, either with your husband or by your self... either that or go to church and talk to your pastor..u sound very lost in life and no man is worth ending your life over...start thinking about your kids and yourself and not some man...
2007-01-10 02:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need to quit depending on men for comfort, and stop trusting them. this man may care about u, but doesn't want to be part of the breakup if there is a divorce. u need to divorce the cheating hubby, and stop seeing this man until after the divorce, than u will see if his intentions are honorable. that remains to be seen. though he is nice to u, he still expects something for it, he may not be using u, but he doesn't want to cause a divorce, and can't become interested in someone who is married.
2007-01-10 02:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you've made some bad choices when it comes to men. i suggets getting out of both so-called relationships & working on yourself for a while. do not end your life! that is a horribly selfish thing to do to your children!
i suggest reading "ten things women do to mess up their lives" by Laura Schlesinger (sp?).
get away from the men who are exploiting & using you and focus on yourself & your children.
2007-01-10 02:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you're being used by both guys. If you are thinking about ending your life, PLEASE SEE A THERAPIST. It will be worth the money. It would be worth putting yourself in debt, if you had to.
This is your life and your health we're talking about. Please see a professional. They'll be able to help you work on your self-esteem. Things will not always feel this bad. There will be bright days again.
2007-01-10 02:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of both & start a fresh, they both obviously think ur a push over, prove them wrong & get out off there!
2007-01-10 02:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is probably a duck. You are being used. Ending your life is not the answer. You sould really concentrate on getting your life on track. But know that ending your life is not the answer. What would your children do without you ??
2007-01-10 02:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't have your ID name be smartcat...you're not acting to smart by being with 2 ppl who treat you like crap and yet you put up with it.
2007-01-10 06:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋