I can't stop crying and picturing him in that casket. Please help.
2007-01-10 02:18:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Kelli -- I was so moved by your question that I spent some time crying and praying for you before even trying to answer. If I knew you at all, I'd give you a big hug and cry with you. Then, we'd have a cup of tea and talk about your wonderful, beautiful child and then cry some more. You don't need to "get over" this. The only thing you can do is keep on living -- try to eat, try to sleep. I pray that your family and friends would surround you with help and comfort and give you lots of time to hurt and cry and remember. Then some day, in the future, there will be about 2 minutes where things seem okay, but then you might dissolve into tears right after that. It's okay. Take as much time as it takes to grieve and hurt. And talk about your little one -- the great things, the sad things; remember all those days together. Allow yourself all the time you need to cry. I'll be praying for you.
2007-01-10 02:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a child is a parents worst fear and greatest pain realized. I can not imagine the soul retching grief you're suffering through. I can sympathize. I can feel for you. I can imagine.
You will never fully get over the death of your son. There will always be a sense of loss. That does not mean that the depth of the pain will not diminish. You will grieve. For how long is up to you? You will heal. When that happens is up to you?
Cling to your faith. Cling to family and friends. Cling to your child's memory. Always remember him, but honor that memory by healing. You don't have to move on . You do have to move forward.
You move forward by honoring his passing but remembering those four years. They were special years, right? The stories you could tell. Stories you should tell. They are worth remembering and repeating. For those years he gave you as much as you gave him. remember that as well.
Take those times with you as you start to build new memories of your current life. It will be different. That's ok. You do not dishonor him by eventually being happy again. You do not disrespect him by living again. It's ok to want to be happy again.
He'll always be apart of you. Be grateful for those years though so short. He's still a part of you. Take him with you through a happy life. It won't happen today. It won't happen tomorrow. It will happen.
2007-01-10 10:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never get over the death all you can do is go on and take it day by day and the hurt will go away slowly. there will always be that pange of hurt when you think about him or some one brings him up. If you get to depressed seek help for it dont let it get you to the point where y ou may harm yourself.I dont mean you would do it just if you feel that way.God Bless you
2007-01-10 10:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek grief counseling from a professional. The funeral home you used for your childs service maybe helpful in finding the right person.
2007-01-10 10:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sincerely sorry for your loss. Please remember he wouldnt want you to be sad. He is in gods hands now, looking down, smiling at you everyday. Its time to let go. You will always have a special place in your heart for him. I hope you are alright sweety its gona be ok. *Big hug from random person lol*
2007-01-10 10:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by tu_sweet189 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek professional help to get you through this. **** luck and Blessed be.
2007-01-10 10:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋