is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time? if yes why do you think so? and if not why not? I have a good friend that thinks he is in love with two women,he said he feels so close to both of them and he thinks about both women at the same time. so he asked me if it is possible. I can't give him an answer so I kind of change the subject but I don't want to keep avoiding the question.is it possible that it maybe just lust and not love? help so I don't have to keep avoiding the question. thanks
2007-01-10 02:07:49 · 34 answers · asked by heavenlyangelscent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you can be. with some people you just click and who says that that has to be limited to one person at a time. i really don't believe in that whole "finding the one for you" deal. i think there's a bunch of people out there that you can spend a lifetime with, it's just a matter of the two people meeting at the right time in the right circumstance.
2007-01-10 02:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by eriq p 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He probably loves certain qualities that both of these girls possess and neither one is the right one for him. What he needs to be looking for is a woman who has all of these qualities at once.
I wouldn't tell him it's probably just lust, as I'm sure he feels that he's really in love. I would tell him that he shouldn't be telling either of them he loves her because that's not fair to anyone involved, including himself. Ask him if he could imagine being with either of these women when they're old and wrinkly and no longer physically attractive. If he can say yes for either girl, then that's the one for him and he should let the other one down at gently as possible. If he can't, tell him he should just enjoy himself for now but keep looking, he hasn't found the right one yet.
2007-01-10 02:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy Cuccia 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he's thinking about two women all the time it sounds more like lust than love, which can easily be confused. In my opinion it takes getting to know an individual extremely well, going through ordeals with them and spending time with that person alone to say that you honestly know and respect them enough to love them. "Feeling close" with them is not enough especially if he's not had dialogue with either one concerning his feelings. It could be that they just consider him a close friend to confide in and don't even feel the same way about him at all. Love takes the consent of BOTH parties...
2007-01-10 02:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think it is possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time..but is it right? i don't know. Is he in a relationship with one or the other? Maybe he can just remain friends with them, because if he really loves both of them and tries to date both of them there will be alot of heartache for all three of them in the long run.
But as u said, it may not be love but just lust...tell him to take things slow and to make sure...so no one including him gets hurt..
2007-01-10 02:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you can't because if you're in love it can't be with 2 girls! You can probably be in love with one of them while the other one is just lust or infatuation. Your friend may be thinking of both girls at the same time because he might think of girl A and then girl B might pop in his head cause he can't seem to make up his mind about which girl he should be with.
2007-01-10 02:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mina 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, 'cause people can love two, three, or four boys in same time, but sometimes you must to choose between two boys. And you must know personal of them. And know what the boy kind, nice, understand you, and can help you if you have a problem or what. Good luck i hope you can choose the perfect boy. And you happy forever with the perfect boy you choose.
2007-01-10 02:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nataline 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you cannot be. "In Love" means that person has your entire heart. Think of it this way, in math anything has a total of 100%. Once 100% of your heart is given away, there's nothing left for the other person.
You might have a crush on both people, that's possible. You might not even LOVE either of them (which is probably true). If you're not sure who you LOVE, obviously it's not true love and is meaningless.
2007-01-10 02:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by biggestperlnerd 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. He's not in love with both of them. He likes certain things about each. He just can't make up his mind. It is not true love if there's more than 2 people involved. It sounds like there is lust involved.
2007-01-10 02:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Philippe 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The heart is a funny thing yes you can love two people at the same time yet you can't give two people the same love equally
2007-01-10 02:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by yahoo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he probably likes certain things about each---there is also a little bit of lust going on here also---however--reality dictates that he is gonna have to make a choice--and do either of these women like him? he may be shocked to discover that he doesnt have their hearts---also as a sidebar--perhaps he is struggling with the commitment thing and this loving 2 women is a convenient way of avoiding some deeper intimacy issues. good luck and hopefuly he doesnt add you into his little mix.
2007-01-10 02:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's possible.
When you know someone and fall in love, you fall deeply. If you meet another and fall in love it can be just as deep. It is good that he knows he is in love with both of them, but love is a very deep feeling. Hopefully he is being honest with the women in his life. It is important. Tell your friend that his feelings are rare but normal and in the end all that matters is that he handles it appropriately.
2007-01-10 02:15:53 · answer #11 · answered by SBirry 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋