My boyfriend and I are living together and this one girl caused us to breakup once. We ended up getting back together. Now she has been calling and wants me to forgive her. I told her if she wants to be my friend she will not be calling him. She has been calling him on his cell when he is at work. I love this man very much. How do I get rid of her once and for all? This is the kind of woman that is not happy unless she is causing trouble for another couple. I don't think it is right for this to be going on. I don't talk to other guys on the phone cause I was raised that when u are in a relationship u don't do anything to cause a brakeup.
2007-01-10 02:01:53 · 16 answers · asked by Shery W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't trust someone like that. You can forgive her, but you will never forget it.
Ignore her, and hopefully, like most people, she will get the hint and lay off.
If your bf is still talking to this woman, then there's the answer to your problem. He shouldn't be talking to her, especially after what has happened in the past. He should respect you more than that. I would be talking to HIM about this situation. He's feeding into her behavior by accepting her calls.
I would say "screw 'em all", (dump him and leave her behind with it all) have a girl's night out, and party like a rock star until you find a man who will treat you with some respect and show some maturity and sensitivity. But hey - that's just me.
2007-01-10 02:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what she is, and tell him how you feel about her. Don't attack him, make it all about your feelings. You are upset with her, you don't want something like that to happen again, You love him. Things like that, no ultimatums or anything.
It was time for me to move on from a friend before, so this is what I did. I have caller ID so when she called, didn't answer. When she texted, didn't respond. If I ran into her, First I tried to avoid her, if she spotted me I would said hey and quickly walk in the other direction or pretend you are on the phone. He can do the same thing. Ignore her existence, it may sound mean, but really, you aren't trying to build a future with her, right, so who cares. Hope this helps, good luck.
2007-01-10 02:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by R♥bin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she may be trying to win you as a friend so in the end you trust her again and you can ultimately trust them hanging out together.. "hanging"... Anyhow, it's good that you do your best to avoid anything that might ruin the relationship (that is how I am too).
I think this is something that your boyfriend has to fix. If I were him I wouldn't even pick up the calls.
Been with my girlfriend for 6 years and counting
2007-01-10 02:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust her. Forgiveness is one thing - you do that so she isn't always on your mind and eating away at you, not so she doesn't have to feel guilty anymore.
You have to talk to your boyfriend and be sure he's on the same page. When she contacts you you can tell her to leave you alone all you want. He's the one who needs to put up the same front.
Maybe its time for him to upgrade his cell phone - and get a new number with it.
Good luck!
2007-01-10 02:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a friend to you, never was...She also is not a friend to your boyfriend as she is showing no respect for the relationship he has with you...And sad but true..your boyfriend is showing no respect to you or your relationship by letting this girl phone him..(There is such a thing as .. blocking...a number, and going behind your back even in phone calls or sms, is a form of ..cheating)..Maybe you need to move on and find that special someone who ...truly...cares for you...Good luck.
2007-01-10 02:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question #1 - Why is he taking her calls on his cell at work?
Q#2 - Why is she calling you after her previous BS?
Tell your boyfriend how it works in your house and in your relationship. This chick has no business being in your business.
Change his cell number or let it go to voicemail. The fact that he is taking her calls may be cause for concern. He should be talking to you.
2007-01-10 02:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust her again.
You need to sit down and talk to you boyfriend about this problem and ask him not to associate with her in person nor on the phone any longer. If he respects your request, good. If not, look deeper into the situation.
2007-01-10 02:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not your friend and you shouldn't ever trust her. If she is the type of person that likes to cause problems, she'll do it again and again if you let her back into your life.
Maybe, if she loses your friendship, she'll think twice about doing this to other people.
Does your boyfriend realize what she is doing? He should also tell her to back off and leave you two alone.
2007-01-10 02:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by jodiprossr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you boyfriend needs to tell her to back off if she is calling him... Tell him that you are very uncomfortable with her calling him.. You prob. can't get rid of her unless He makes his move. Talk to your boyfriend tell him how you feel in a respectful manner. Ask him why he is receiving her calls? Ask him if he would like it done to him.. Tell her that you feel its best that you are not friends. You are right, she needs to respect your relationship (tell her that). If she calls you don't answer... I really think HE needs to tell her to take a hike.
2007-01-10 02:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good morals if you believe that. I would let your boyfriend handle the situation because she's the one calling him. He needs to tell her to stop calling him and that he loves you. She's not a good person to have around!
2007-01-10 02:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋