He's a good boy, has a good heart, has a lot of good qualities. Unfortunately, he can't resist peer pressure and is always breaking hos promisses. When we talk, he promises he'll change and I'm sure he's sincere. For some time he does his best, but ends up doing bad stuff. I had to take some measures and made it clear it wasn't a punishment, but just a consequence of the way he acts. Now, it's a terrible situation. He suffers a lot with this but for now I can't back off. And since despite his problems he has principles and respects and likes me, he suffers a lot because for now I can't trust him. He wants my trust, it's kinda important to him, but for his best for now I have to be a bit harsh, or I may loose him to bad gangs. I suffer a lot with this, this makes me sad, depressed, I want to make him reliable and tell him I trust you. With me he'll always have another chance, but I' must be sure he won't do bad stuff. How can | accomplish this goal?
2007-01-10 01:29:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Constantly remind him that you love him. That is a difficult age plus all the peer pressure, but you remain firm and stick to your gun when giving him curfews and such.
2007-01-10 01:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 the way society is these days is let them go out and have fun yeah fair enough but you still need to have control trust me he will thank you in the long run be nice and understanding but make sure you've always got the upper hand even if you don't because he doesn't now good luck
2007-01-11 00:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by snow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His tendency to follow the pack so readily may be a sign of a lack of self confidence. He's afraid to go against the group b/c he's not comfortable being different or making them angry. This is not uncommon among teens. I think you're on the right track by trying to set limits and by enforcing the rule.
It might help if you can foster his interests in some more positive areas (arts, athletics, volunteering) where he can get some esteem boosting. Also, if he has interests separate from his current group of friends, he may be able to make NEW friends who are less likely to try and involve him in dangerous or foolish conduct.
Good luck!
2007-01-10 01:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by fdm215 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is advisable to evaluate changing his atmosphere and inspire him to better pastimes, golf equipment and entertainments to get him out of undesirable impact. whether, peer tension will ensue everywhere and all you're able to do is be supportive. with the aid of the way you're additionally protecting his movements would recommend his movements weren't in any respect too undesirable. it is likewise possible to be too uptight over small themes which furnish him alot of tension as properly and make him appear as if a Mama's boy to his pals. this could reason him to be teased with the aid of his pals and he will as a result do stupid issues his pals ask him to instruct that he's not Mama's boy. attempt to back off if he isn't doing too undesirable. It appears like he's likewise attempting to stability his pals and you. Forcing him too lots will reason him alot of inbalance and unhappiness. this is advisable to take a seat down him down and relatively seek advice from him with regard to the relationships he has, fairly than communicate approximately what incorrect he did. there is extra.
2016-10-30 12:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be like I'm sounding cold but you need to understand that you cant chang a person .A person has his own free will and you don't want to go down with him do you ?You sound so intelligent and like you have a great head on your shoulders,your going places in life.Peer pressure wont get you anywhere.Be his friend , not his girl friend.You need to understand that this life is hard enough and he is not making it easier for you.Good luck.
2007-01-10 02:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by FaBuLoUs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my aunt is having the same issues with her 15yr old son. Peer pressures is hard to deal with now days, just keep supporting him in the good things he does, and explaining consequences and enforcing them when needed. Keep loving him like you do, and be sure he knows that, and it hurts you when he chooses wrong choices with his friends.
2007-01-10 01:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing all you really can. The most you can offer is unconditional love. Consequences are consequences. If he understands this, he knows that it is his actions that bring the consequences. He has to make choices on his own and sometimes they will be bad choices.
2007-01-10 01:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making mistakes is part of learning
2007-01-10 01:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by private 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a monastary that will take him or a Military school.
2007-01-10 04:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋