3 boys,husband passed away being going non stop but nowi feel its time to make a start for me and the boys but how...
2007-01-10 01:28:20 · 8 answers · asked by royal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can try some counceling that will help relieve the stress and emotions but just take it one day at a time and take care of yourselves and your boys. this helped me when i lost a child a year ago. and now im much better. its real hard but with a little help it all comes together in the end. good luck and sorry for your loss.
2007-01-10 01:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband died 15 years ago, my daughters were 7, 9 and 11 yrs old. It was hard work at first but in time everything seems to slip into place. I joined Gingerbread. It is a group for lone parents. I met another young widow and after talking to her realised that she was going through much the same stuff I was. My children were very clingy and I felt overwhelmed with the enormity of bringing up 3 children on my own. I surprised myself by not only coping but actually doing quite well. Do not be afraid of asking family and friends for any help you may need, even if it is only to talk and cry together. Talk to your children about their father, remember the good times. Have your hair done and buy a new outfit, go out with the girls and have some guilt-free fun! It may be hard at first but will get easier in time.
2007-01-13 07:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality has been plodding along nicely while you have been healing. Work out what is is you want and expect from life now, then start to put it into practice. If you can cope better where people don't know your history then make new friends by joining clubs etc. If you prefer what you already know then arrange a night in and cook a meal for close friends. Sometimes people don't know you are ready to move on a little - make the first move and let them know.
Take time to look after yourself aswell as the boys.
Good luck and bless you.
2007-01-10 01:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent been in your situation before but i do feel for you.
then again hes gone to a better place and its time to move on. theres pleanty of wonderful things left in this world and you have 3 boys, why not live life to the full. Its not nice when someone you love passes away but think about it....
hes given you 3 beautiful boys that you can teach and respect things in life and remember when you do move on-he will still stay with you in your heart.
think about your lads and give them the best time they've ever had, you of all know that anyone can die at any point in life-so do everything you want to do before it happens
good luck to you and your sons and just because youre moving on- your husband will be looking down at you smilling
2007-01-10 01:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter (40 yrsold) lost her husband to suicide last fall. she has 2 boys. It has taken a year, but now she is trying to do something for her and the boys (25 and 21) she plans family get togethers for them all to be together, started some new traditions over the holidays. She also got a new hair cut, is planning a vacation she has dreampt of for years (from life insurance money) she is volunteering at a homeless shelter and learning to sew. It is a different life, lonely one must learn to like your own company, have hobbies, have faith. It is a difficult road keep reaching out like this to new people and people who have survived this and are new to this. Bless you and yours.
2007-01-10 05:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lezleykay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier giving advice in such situations than taking it....but.....
Take one day at a time.
Join some group where you can be on neutral ground (ie, not a dating agency or such)
Your local church, social club, etc.
Remember that you are unique and therefore special.
Also remember that you are not being unfaithful to the memory of your husband by wanting to move on. Past memories are precious but do not need to deny you a future.
2007-01-10 01:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a healer. My Gran died of Cancer 3 months ago and I still find it very hard, but it is getting easier.
All the best
Kayle
P.S. There are always concilliors that you can speak to if you need it!
2007-01-10 01:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kayle xxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first...sorry about your loss....and i hope that you can find peace....all you can do now is be strong for your boys and make life more bareable....you will never forget your husbnd, keep him in your memories, but life has to go on for the sake of yourself and your 3 sons..you only get out of life what you put into it..keep doing your best and you'll get rewards...bless you
2007-01-10 01:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋