Home work help.. PLease.. About abuse and cursing..?

Question

the question is--> Describe three occasions on which students easily abuse or curse each other and describe what you would do in each case to control your anger.. please help..

Answer 1

(1) Blaming an unwanted team member for causing the group to lose. If the students already had animosity and did not want to play together, this is made worse when the teacher or class forces them against their will. So there is personal animosity and resentment against the teacher's authority mixed together.

Solution: I would address the students BEFORE they play, on good sportsmanship and learning to take the good days with the bad, when things don't work out and when they do, and learning to compensate for errors or learn to handle loss as a good skill in life. I would give examples of how good teams that are respected, such as the Astros, stand up for each other, even on their worse days, and help each other do better next time.

(2) When one student reports another and gets someone in trouble, so that student and friends associated are disliked or picked on by the student and friends who got in trouble.

Solution: I would set up peer mediation and counseling where students are rewarded for addressing and solving their own problems as much as possible, instead of relying on teachers to step in and intervene. Students can elect their own ombudsmen, and also set up a grievance process through student councils by which student input on policy issues or complaints or problems can be organized and presented to the staff to work with the students. Some schools have a "teen court" where truancies and other minor violations (not criminal) can be processed by fellow students with adult supervision.

If smaller problems or conflicts are addressed early on, they don't become bigger issues of verbal abuse, bullying, violence etc. that break school rules and become an issue that only the staff can deal with. So early intervention and mediation to resolve conflict is very critical, and setting up an organized means of receiving student input is important to establish respect and trust, where students feel they are being heard.

(3) Competition for popularity or breaking up with one friend/boyfriend/girlfriend over another person, spreading gossip or badmouthing which then causes one person to want to fight someone else. In severe cases, competing to join one "gang" or another out of peer pressure, defense from others, desire for acceptance, or fear of rejection etc.

Solution: Providing positive alternatives and activities for students to interact in groups for creative and constructive purposes. I would especially encourage schools to set up a club for music or media production so students can use their energy and talents in positive ways instead of misdirecting them in negative ways.

The common factor is trying to address the problems at the source, and provide better alternatives where students and teachers can respect each other. So this prevents anger in students and teachers caused by loss of control AFTER the fact. By intervening early, and asking student input (such as through peer counseling and mediation) students and teachers don't have to feel powerless but can develop trust they will listen to each other and work together on solutions that everyone respects. So this will create a more interactive supportive school environment and reduce conflict that causes anger.

Answer 2

"You took MY seat on this bus!"

"No! I just sat here cos it is an empty seat"

"But Maria always sits with ME!"

"Well, today I am sitting with Maria! Got a problem wiht that??"

"Yes, I f***ing do!"

etc. Get the picture?

OR NUMBER 2

"Hey, pass that pencil off the floor please"
"Get it yourself!"
"Come on! It is close to you!"
"So? Get up and get it you slime bag"
"I am not a . . ."
"Yes you are, and you shoot baskets like a girl!"
and so it goes.

Now about YOUR anger? You need to tell that you find such exchanges beneath you and you will never ever get involved since only dumb kids do such stuff.