i had a very close guy friend (Rodney). we were close last time until he found out that i have been in love with him for a long time. we sort of drifted apart and im pretty sure he is avoiding since he doesnt feel the same way . we still talk once in a while though..
i tried very hard to get over him and i met someone else (David). it happens so that (David ) looks so much alike like(Rodney) including the facial structure mannerism .. the only difference is their hair color. i have to admit that David reminds me of Rodney very much.. but David was the one who "found" me .
long story short. Rodney(my old friend) got to know of our relationship and he even got the guts to tell David that i am only with him because he (david) looks like him(rodney).
but thats not true coz i find that David is such a nice person. now David thinks that he is just a replacement for Rodney..
how do i explain to David .. i just dont understand why rodney suddenly try to close again .
2007-01-10 01:03:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and he is trying to break the relationship between me and david.
help what should i do
2007-01-10 01:03:49 · update #1
Well, if it is any consolation, we as humans apparently go for the same "type" of partner every time. It is just human nature. You have a certain "taste" in men, be it blond, dark or whatever, and your taste will remain the same. Therefore, you automatically choose the same "look". My b/f looks like my X hubby, and my fiancee who passed away. Not because I am trying to replace either, it is just the kind of guy that I like (the looks etc.) Tell David, that although he does resemble Rodney, it is because you like him for HIM and that Rodney is just having sour grapes. You will probably find that you look somewhat like at least some of his X girlfriends!
2007-01-10 01:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell david the truth,
that you did have an attraction for Rodney, but that is over with
and although he does have similarities with Rodney you are with him because of him and not Rodney
also remind him that he was the one who seek you out
and you want to give your relationship a chance
because he becomes very important to you
Good luck
2007-01-10 01:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Rodney is just jealous, because maybe he didn't want a relationship with you in the beginning,but now that he sees you with another guy he realises he does care for you.So now he wants to break you up with David, so he can be your favourite again and he can get another chance.
I am sorry to say this, but I think Rodney would have tried to break you up with your new boyfriend, no matter how he looked or who he was. He sounds like a selfish brat.
2007-01-10 01:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this so listen close. tell David EVERYTHING from the BEGINNING to the END.that way he won't be feeling like u just trying 2 remind yourself about u're x.
Rodney like, or maybe he just love u like u loved him. ask him. since y'all were best friends maybe he'll understand. if he don't he will try his best 2 break u and David ^ just so he can get u.
Let me tell u my story: I was at my new school, and three months later i had a boyfriend. but the bot that liked me hooked us up, and that wasn't going 2 work. so me and the boy went 2gether for 1, yes, 1 week and we broke up. WHY? because the boy that liked me wanted me. and i didn't know until that nite when he asked me. but we don't go 2gether any more. me and the boy i went with when i got there go back 2gether. and we are soul mates.
2007-01-17 04:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You liked David cuz he looked like Rodney. But you got know David and now you like him because he's David right? So, leave it alone. Tell David that Rodney is hating on you cuz he wants to hook up now. Tell him majority of the truth ... dont tell him you hooked up with him (David) cuz he looked like Rodney but do tell him that you used to have a thing for Rodney but he wasn't feelin you so you moved on. Now he's back tryin to mess your love life up. If David can't accept this or doesn't believe you ... screw him. You can do better ... and screw that Rodney dude too ... he's a frickin dill hole!
2007-01-17 03:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably tell David the truth that you're attracted to his resemblance to Rodney at first, but you got to like him as David after you knew him. Be sincere and explain clearly that you STILL like him a lot (if you do). Or he may be offended =/
2007-01-10 01:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by hui.ting23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell David the truth:
you did like Rodney before
you think David is a nice guy and want to continue seeing him
David is not a replacement for Rodney
ALSO
i think you should talk to him face to face
not emailing, im-ing or on the phone
2007-01-16 15:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by TiFFy☺☻♥♦♣♠•◘○◙♂♀♪♫☼►◄↕‼¶§▬↨↑↓→← 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell david that rodney is jealous of you because you want to start dating david and he doesnt want for you to be with another person... or tell him what you really feel for him and that if he really likes you he would believe you and not rodney
2007-01-15 13:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all like different things about each other. some like short, some like tall,thin,chunky,busty,perky. your preference for looks is not "copy righted" by Rodney! He doesn't own "the look". tell David that Rodney seems bent out of shape, bec. you found the better version of that "look".
2007-01-15 08:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by mike f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rodney didnt have to be a jerk. what does he know? if you really love david give him assurance., tell him you love him every single day if you have to..
Rodney., he's just jealous.,. he cant get over the fact that you went on with your life., he cant take the fact that you are over him..
2007-01-10 01:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by deynibeybi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋