Was anyone else left to there self as a child.?

Question

I am now seventeen but my dad is addicted to cocaine and i have known him all my life. But he has hardly ever been there for me. And has taught me how ignorant and arrogant a human can become. My mother tried hard but was never really there for me eitheir. She had me at a very young age and was always hanging out with friends. Or too interested in dating after divorcing my dad. The second time i might add. They are both republican christians. I became a democrat and an atheist. Some would say that is a result of rebellion. But i think rebellion is a good thing to rebel means your considering your parents beliefs and thinking if they are what you want to have as your own or would like to discard. I sort of thank them in a way for abandoning me. Because it helped me become a very open minded person and base my beliefs on what i learn rather then what was indoctrinated in me. And please dont see me as some stupid whiny kid. complaining about his parents.

Do any of you share my feelings

Answer 1

Good for you! A story of courage and bravery. You are anything but a whiny kid. If they're not proud of you, I am. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Do some of us have the kind of relation with our parents that have forced us to grow up way too fast? Yes. **** happens.

Rebellion has two edges as most things in life, it can be both good and bad. When I was 17 I was thankful for the strength that I had and the insight that I had because of how I was "raised". Now that I'm ... uh... much older I can see that I still had a long way to go and probably still have. My rebellion made me more stubborn than I thought at the time and my "open mindedness" was way over the edge. It's a learning process as everything else.

Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all, I would like to let you know that you are definately not alone. There are many children out there in similar situations are yourself.

To answer your question, yes my life is somewhat similar. Myself, brother and sister was admitted into St. Joseph's Homes (Homes for Children) when I was one year old according to my records. After this, we were constantly in and out of 'Foster Care'.

My mother was abusive towards us, drinking alcohol all the time. She'd go out with her friends and sisters and lock up kids inside until they arrived home. My father was never there. He only visited us every seven years or so. Also, you have a right to your own beliefs this comes under a section of the Declaration of Human Rights.

I don't blame you for feeling like this, however you must understand that your parents are both having a life crisis. Your father needs help before it's too late for him, and you need to tell your mother (when she's sober) how you feel about everything. Don't leave nothing out. If you tell her when she's sober, she will have no choice but to listen to you.

Answer 4

I am 14, and my dad drinks way too much, to the point where he'll smack me across the face for any stupid reason. He's always traveling for his work, so he's hardly ever there. He's pretty much emotionally unavailable. My mom tries, but she is too busy teaching 8 year olds and helping my 11 year old brother. She dosen't know how to handle a teenager. I know what it's like to be in your position. You get so angry when you see another teen getting along with their parents and talking to them like they are good friends. It sucks. However, I turned to my faith and now I am in my church youth group. The leader is in her twenties and went through the same thing too. I tell her what's going on an she gives me advice and strength. One of the most comforting things she ever told me was, "you are totally not alone in struggling with your parents"

Answer 5

Different story same outcome personally I would not want it any other way when I compare myself with those that had everything.