moving in with guy friend?

Question

ok..im in the process of moving out on my own but i dont have a job right now, i go to school..im also job hunting desperately and hopin i find somethin soon..i cant stand livin in my parents house any longer, also im les..and i'll luv to have my g/f spend the nite with me without my parents naggin me..i have this nice guy friend and he offered to give me a room in his 2 bedroom apartment until i can move out on my own.. he said he wont feel right askin me to pay rent?what do u guys think? is it ok and should i move there?any thoughts would be appreciated

Answer 1

My thoughts..
Since he offered, take him up on it... BUT....
Before you go for it, maybe it would be wise to have a written contract of sorts... just to save any weirdness or unforseen whatever that might come up and wreck your friendship.

What I mean... have written down a time frame of let's say "4 months"... if you don't find a job in that time then you'd have to move back with your parents... if you find a job, pay him what you would've owed for rent in that time you lived there for nothing... I hope you get the idea.
Be clear in writing and have him set it up with you and you both sign it and swear that you'll talk any issues through and not destroy your friendship.

Have other things in it too like when it would be okay with him when you have your GF over... it is his place afterall and you should have respect for him and his apartment. (as he should for you.)

I'd also suggest to make yourself useful when you are living there for nothing (he is doing you a huge favour you realize).
Be the cook, keep the place tidy (especially if he's out there working and you might make a mess).

Sounds like I'm telling you to be the 'good little housewife'... if you were a guy I'd suggest the same thing... it's only right.

That's what I'd do and more... I'm sure you are smart enough to come up with more ideas... Just remember he'd be helping you.

One thing about the rent... you said he wouldn't 'feel right' to ask for it... doesn't mean he wouldn't take it if you offered it to him when you have it.
Just picture yourself in his situation... that's all.

Good luck to you.
(and try not to be angry or hate your parents... they love you.)

Answer 2

If you going to move in rent free then you need to compensate by cleaning and maybe paying some utilities or buying food or laundry something so your not a free loader. Find a job as soon as you can to try to help out.

Answer 3

ok then offer him to keep the pad clean versus paying rent . If he is nice enough to give you a room . Or cook for you all . that way he feels you chip in with out asking you to do so . Talk it over with him . I am sure he aprechiates it

Answer 4

It depends on how good of a friend he is? He might have all the good intentions of letting you stay with him bill free but after awhile it will get on his nerves and it will cause you problems with your friendship.I would def. get a job asap and give him money wether he wants it or not.I know i had a friend stay at my house on a temp basis and it turned into a nightmare.

Answer 5

I'm a guy, with three female room mates.I don't charge them rent.They keep my house clean,do the dishes & laundry. It's okey with me if they have friends over, but they are responsible for their friends behavior. living with other people is different than living with your Family.Doing your share of the chores,buying your groceries, Time to grow up lilgirl,are you ready?

Answer 6

He might have good intentions but he also wants some pu$$y. It will be pay now or pay later type of situation.

Answer 7

There is not even a single possibility that he asks rent for u..

Answer 8

You can definitely give it a try. There is no harm in it. Go ahead

Answer 9

give it a try.. but you have to help with the house cleaning, buying food..