Grandmother kissing baby while having a cold sore!?

Question

My mother-in-law visited us the other day and kissed our 9 mth old a bunch of times before telling us she has cold sore. I was shocked that she would kiss our son on the lips! I didn't notice until after she had done it (I wasn't the one who greeted them at the door). Anyways, needless to say I am angry. Was it a total lack of responsibility on her part? Should I be worried about what other things she could be irresponsible about? She seems a little clueless about these things sometimes.

Answer 1

Lay down the law, you need to tell everyone that you do not want your child exposed to anything contagious, her feelings may be hurt but she needs to know that it's not ok to kiss a baby when she has cold sores. I am very open and honest when it comes to my children, I tell people what I expect of them in terms of how they treat my children. I don't care how closely related they are to my child, if they put them in danger of getting ill or hurt I say something, if it keeps happening I refuse contact, usually the threat of this puts a little repect back into people. Cold sores are very dangerous to babies, and she should have known that, it was very irresponsible of her. Just try talking it through with her, explain to her how you feel, and tell her that she needs to respect you and your child

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Answer 4

Yes, you do have a right to be upset. Cold sores are very contagious. I had one last month and wouldn't kiss my husband or my kids until it was gone. If she has blisters on it still then your son could very well get one but, if there aren't any blisters and it is scabbed over then he should be fine. Next time just let her know that she should wait until the cold sore is gone before kissing the baby.You are his mother and have every right to say what your not comfortable with even though it is hard and I do the same thing when it comes to my mother in law a lot of times I let things go until she leaves and then complain to my husband but that doesn't do any good. lol! Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Outrageous behaviour. Count yourself lucky though - a similar situation saw me in the emergency room in the early hours of the morning when my 6 mth old caught impetigo from contact with an elderly relative. This relative knew she had this skin infection and didn't speak up because she guessed I wouldn't visit. Worse she held my baby to her and ultimately transferred the infection. The rash was so horrific I thought that she had been bitten by a flesh eating spider. One week administering antibiotics is not fun. You know what ... I'm going to draw a line in the sand here and say I don't think anyone in any type of health, good or not, should be kissing someone else's baby on the lips at all. It's insensitive and rude.

Answer 6

Antibacterial cleaning soap is not going to make a change. Herpes is a virus not micro organism. No, she would not have kissed your son, but what's done is completed. Cold sores are rather most likely nothing to worry about. They're no longer the same Herpes virus because the sexually transmitted variation and bloodless sores are at worse unpleasant and demanding. I caught bloodless sores from any one in grade 9, had a number of outbreaks and none for the reason that. Upon getting the virus for cold sores you are going to have it to your system the rest of your existence - so many many persons have the virus. But like I said, it fairly quite isn't whatever to fear about.

Answer 7

I would most definitely have a talk with her & ask her to NEVER kiss the baby on the mouth EVER AND plus with now her having a cold sore. What a inconsiderate dumb thing for her to do to an infant.
Tell her that is herpes & she could cause more problems than she can even imagine. Have the baby checked out at the pediatrician for your own peace of mind & send her the bill.

Answer 8

Antibacterial cleansing soap ought to no longer make a distinction. Herpes is a plague no longer micro organism. No, she would not have kissed your son, yet what's finished is finished. chilly sores are relatively certainly no longer something to be annoying approximately. they do no longer look to be a similar Herpes virus because of the fact the sexually transmitted version and chilly sores are at worse unsightly and stressful. I caught chilly sores from somebody in grade 9, had some outbreaks and none in view that. as quickly as you have the virus for chilly sores you have it on your device something of your existence - an excellent sort of many human beings have the virus. yet like I stated, it relatively relatively isn't something to be annoying approximately.

Answer 9

It might be time to check her at the door before the situation gets any worse. If shes clueless like that, you should probably tell her about herself. In a nice way of course. I know sometimes thats hard to do in certain situations, especially when it comes to your child, but we are talking about your baby here. It seems as if she would know better since shes had children before. Dont let her take it lightly, (and laugh it off) let her know that you are serious but not furious and its all about the safety of the baby. Good luck!

Answer 10

Same thing happened to me! I was SO upset! I tried to explain to her that it is easily passed from person to person and how would she feel knowing that her grandchild will have cold sores for the rest of his/her life. What is worse she didn't believe me that you can spread it that way! So I had to get proof. Yeah if she is that inconsiderate about that I would be extra careful and on top of the everything when she is around. Good luck.