She slept with him a week before our 14th aniversary. It ultimate caused us to divorce. Why she admitted it wasn't clear at the time, but yesterday. I met a girl who told me that it was her boyfriend. So she called him up and he admitted that it was my wife and that she wasn't any good anyway and it didn't mean anything. lol. In the beginning she told me that she didn't know what she was doing or who he was only his first name and that she cried during the act. Then she changed it to she was glad she did it, and she knew what she was doing That he comes to town about twice a year. Should I tell her that I know?
2007-01-10 00:25:11 · 32 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let IT or HER go !!
2007-01-10 00:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good would telling her you know the truth now do? Your marriage has been dissolved. Whether it was good or not, your marriage apparently was already in trouble or the infidelity would not have happened in the first place. Knowing the truth will only give you some closure. Telling her will just cause more conflict and only open up old wounds that really need to heal. I say let it be and sleep better at night knowing that you know the truth and that she is trying to sleep living with her own regrets.
2007-01-10 00:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why????? what good would it do?? none.. its over the marriage is over, it was 2 years ago.. theres no satisfaction to gain in letting her know , she already knows who it was so its not like it would be a shock to her system.. and the marriage is already over so its not like it has any weight to bare.. the only thing it shows is that ur still not over it, over her, over the hurt or over the pain cause if u were, u wouldnt care who it was, just that it happened, so all u would be doing is giving her the ego gratification of knowing that u still care.. after all this time.. let it go.. it doesnt matter who it was, it matters that she did it, which u already knew.. so just let it go.. i know it still hurts, and i know that the hurt never goes away not completely, but dredging up the past will only upset both of u, and in the end she'll just get the satisfaction of knowing that even though all that has happened that u still care..
2007-01-10 00:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really only if you still communicate with one another. I mean if you don't talk at all than it would sound a little stupid (for lack of a better term) to just call her up or go up to her and say that. I mean if you are divorced, there is nothing that you knowing who is going to change it. It'll just show her that it still bothers you and where she said she was glad she did it, to her, it'll just be thrown back in your face.
2007-01-10 00:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by whoamI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife needs attention. Yours to be exact. She probably was not thinking straight when she did the act but depending on your reaction to it-she may have changed her story to make you jealous. But if you are divorced then why the need to continue along this line of conversation. You know-then move on with life.
2007-01-10 00:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you both are divorced. If you are not hoping to get back together with her- let it go and move on with your life. It is the only way forward for you. There is no point in confronting her with this information. All the best.
2007-01-10 00:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have ties with her, you may want to save it until you have a tiff with her. Otherwise if you bring it up out of nowhere, it'll come across either like who cares, possibly stupid, or maybe even a desperate attempt at revenge. You need to save that stuff for when it really matters. Seriously.
2007-01-10 00:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lexington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she told you about it. Why would you tell her something she already knows? In the future, when you think up fake questions, try to get your story straight first, that way more people will believe you.
2007-01-10 00:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..it sounds like revenge sex to me..have you ever cheated on her? Anyway..no..don't bring it up..if you two are trying to work out your situation..that's the last think you too want to bring up again..trust me..I know!! Let it go..but keep your eye on her..don't let your guard down with her and don't let her try and fool you with a sweet and innocent act. If you can handle it..keep it too yourself.
2007-01-10 00:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by dillionstoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in contact and discussing this, then yes. Don't call her out of the blue to tell her you know. I hope you can put this behind you.
2007-01-10 00:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you feel better then call her up if you are not intrested now then dont bother , she will think that its still bugging you and you are still thinking about it , when really she did the dirty and you deserve better , the point is you know if you ever get the chance to talk then let her no that you new who he was .
2007-01-10 00:33:51 · answer #11 · answered by happy67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋