death of mother still grieving aftert 17 years?

Question

my mother died when i was 9 i am now 27 and i cant get over it especially that i am a single parent and have a son who is 4, i miss her so much but every year seems to get harder for me. any advice

Answer 1

I don't think anyone can understand what it is like. There are days that I still give a quick thought to placing a call to her when I want to share something with my mother. She has been gone for 8 years. She took her life. I have for some reason been able to resolve things in my dreams...not with her death. I have grandchildren that she never met. It hurts so bad. After her death my health has declined greatly. Shortly after her death I could not understand how my co-workers could still be happy. It just changed my world. My advantage is that I have a wonderful wife to help me. I feel your pain but I don't have a answer. Your love for her was truly unique and strong.

Answer 2

I don't know that a child ever gets over the death of their mother. She is the one who carried you, nurtured you, loved you, probably more than herself. Your mom is still around, I guarantee it. You can keep her alive by talking to people about what you remember, the good times, how she looked, what you remember. Ask other family members as well to give you any info they may have. Does your mom have a burial site? Maybe you could write her a letter and just go there by yourself and read it to her, or just talk to her, let her know how you are feeling. I know it may sound corny, but I think there is a spiritual world, and even though it may not be visual to all, I think your mother is still around you and your family. The only other think I could suggest is that time helps heal all wounds, but a deep one like the loss of your mother is a tough one, I wish you luck and peace.

Answer 3

Read some books by Sylvia Browne who (if you haven't heard of her) is a world renowned psychic. She believes in life after death. She has some good books that might help you out and make you realize that your mother really hasn't gone anywhere. She's been with you this whole time, you just haven't noticed. She's probably got you out of binds plenty of times and maybe has even saved your life a time or two. Believe!!

Answer 4

I am a man who lost his father at the age of 5 so I can relate to what you are going through! What I do for my son is be a stronger person because I haven't had a father figure to learn from. Ask your friends and lean on them for advice from time to time. Also use your best judgement and ask yourself how you would want your daughter to grow up. Follow that and you will be fine, Good Luck!

Answer 5

Darling we never get over the death of our parents, children
my mother died when I was 31/2 now I am 37 and I miss her
my sibling and I still celebrate her birthdays, mothers days
maybe if you celebrate her birthdays & mother days that might make you feel better
God Bless

Answer 6

Therapy.

This has gone on way to long and you are much to focused on it.

Get some therapy, and do it soon.