I dont mind providing DNA ok its just the fact he is asking me to do it after 12 wks which I believe could harm the child - I do not want to harm the child and said I can provide after its born but he said he will not look after me if I do not cave into his demands..people Im trying to be responsible but what would you do if you were in this position? I have never cheated on the guy - his prob is he has difficulty trusting anyone who is a woman - I just kept giving him too many chances..I didnt have unprotected sex - it was sex gone wrong - hence the accident
2007-01-09 23:21:10 · 20 answers · asked by Babs 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What do you want from him anyway?
Obviously you want him to be a great guy and love you and be there for you during this, but you've already seen his potential. YOU can't change him.
Do Not cave in to his demands against your better judgement. He is not looking at the protection of this baby, he is only loking after his own best interest. He's trying to find his out and you can do better.
I wished I had left my babies daddies well enough alone and gone on without them because they were selfish as well and only cauesd me more pain.
You don't need that, neither does your baby. It's his loss and if he doesn't see that then he doesn't deserve the experience of this baby, obviously he doesn't care about it and it's a burden to him either way so don't even let him near you.
Stick it to him after the baby is born with the safe paternity test and a child support bill.
This was his chance to have something special, but he doesn't want it, don't force it, if he's not caring about the best for you and the baby right now, trust me, he never will.
SCREW HIM!!! You take the wheel, you call the shots because you are in the right, not him. He''ll igure that out and when he does, it may be too late, but oh well, he doesn't seem worth it.
2007-01-09 23:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A doctor is not going to allow you to take DNA until the child is born unless the doc thinks something is wrong with the child. He has no choice but to wait until the birth. Tell the a..h... to get lost!!! But make sure you keep track of all expenses and get him to pay them after the child is born. Tell your boyfriend that he has absolutely NO CHOICE but to wait until the child is born to find out and if he insists on a test then you will not live with him ever again!!! But only say that if you mean it.
2007-01-10 00:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you want to prove anything to him, he sounds like a real jerk. Go ahead with your pregnancy by your own terms, and forget him. You can get a DNA test when the baby is born, and get the child support payments off of him then. If he's demanding now, he'll only get worst, and if there's no trust in your relationship, then what relationship do you have?
2007-01-09 23:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by pjveddergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a shame you are ina relationship with an untrusting partner.
Doctors will not do DNA tests until the baby is born.
Let him kno wit is his, that you are a faithful woman and that if he wants to leave then he should leave.
You really do not want to be with someone that does not trust you.
Tell him you will mail him the results of the test when the baby is born and then he will have to decide whether to come back crawling on his hands and knees to beg your forgiveness ( that is if you are telling the truth, if you were not faithful then the test will show it and you will be in for a much worse experience) for the way he has treated you and his child.
Good luck
2007-01-09 23:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to your OBY/GN the next time, make him go with you, and ask the doctor in front of him, if doing a DNA test at this point would be ok or not, if they doctor says it's ok, than do it, if not, then at least he would have heard it from a doctors point of view. The doctor should be able to give you some stats on the situation and everything. If he isn't willing to go to the doctors with you...well than I would say he's not worth worrying about. What is best for your unborn child is the best thing to do.
2007-01-09 23:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by eyesoredesigns.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your guy is being very irrational and is possibly looking for a reason to not assume his responsibility. He can not expect for you to put your own unborn child's life in danger to help ease his mind some. He needs to grow up and be a man if this is in fact his kid and stop acting immature. Hang in there and do not cave in. you are being more than reasonable. It sounds like he's possibly been burnt in the past: however, you and your baby should not have to pay for his past. Good luck!
2007-01-09 23:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by wounded healer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him he has to wait until the baby is born and if he has a problem with that then when you find out the baby is his, sue him for child support. If he doesn't want to help you then he needs to pay for the life he helped create.
2007-01-09 23:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie4ever555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand fim, your responsibility is to your baby. If he is a good man he will see that and chill out. Unfortunately this is his problem and you will only make things worse if you pander to his needs and therefore back up his behaviour. I'm sure you have friends and family who will support you if only you ask. People are always more willing to help than you think.
2007-01-09 23:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Starkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has sparky positioned a wedding ceremony ring on cookies finger yet?f no then he's loose to work out the different ***** he needs to work out Get both between the fastened and the concern of undesirable domestic dogs wont take position dogs won't be able to be made to be faith finished because they don't mate for life, they are going to breed with the different dogs that wags a tail of their face Please get them fastened.
2016-12-28 14:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground. Talk to your doctor, see how they feel about you testing the baby so early. Also let the father know that if your doctor says that it's harmless you will be present at the appointment date. Tell the father that you are not paying for the test and mean it!
2007-01-10 01:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by lilbitt_637 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋