y is porn degradin to women? y should my wife get so upset about it?

Question

my wife gets real upset over me doin porn. should i ignore her & just carry on in secret or should i stop?
why is it she feels degraded by me looking at it & how come she feels like i'm cheating?

yea my wifes hot but so are the babes in the porn shots.
if you could meet some of these babes, would you...like..do it wiv em?

shes already caught me out. i hid it under the floorboards but said i wouldnt do it again. only i did. i cant help it i keep getting drawn to it.
i do love my wife but just keep doin porn too. i said i'd stop but how?

Answer 1

Are you for real? you ask why it makes your wife degraded? shouldn't you be asking her this question?

I've read your other questions & answered a few but by far this seems to be the dumbest (if that's a word) you've asked yet....

Porn is degrading to Women sweetheart because it features only women giving men all the pleasure...it has women dressing up in attire only used in a serving capacity..
Nurse..Air-hostess..Maid..get the picture of what I mean here?

It's degrading because it shows women being in a submissive position...being "taken" by the guy...she always has the ideal "playthings" for the guy...because that's what she is...a plaything...to be used & in many porn movies abused too....& even raped! all for mens kicks...

The guys in the films are always very well endowed with never ending sp*nk which mercilessly gets sprayed over the women or down their throat...the women are portrayed as no more than chattel to be used & thrown aside when finished with...the women act as slu.ts only there for the mans pleasure...obviously it's a sex industry which makes big bucks from women being portrayed as sex objects...not a good image for a young boy to grow up with really is it?

Shall I go on? God! we could be here forever...then to make matters worse we have guys & even some girls that say a woman doesn't like porn because we're jealous of the females taking part (I should say females being used...because that's what's happening) yes! of course some women would love to have the bodies portrayed in such movies...but I think it goes deeper than that...knowing your guy is getting off (jerking) to the tune of what's happening to another woman is going to make her feel as she's somehow being cheated on isn't it?

put yourself in her place...how the hell do you think you'd feel if these movies featured mainly men in the same capacity as they show women....are you honestly telling me you wouldn't have a problem with your wife masturbating to guys with giant hard ons & perfect bodies?
Guys that were seen by females as nothing more than something to ****...come on get real...a little empathy is called for here I think...don't you?

Answer 2

Kinda like men getting over their porn addictions?, and grow up?? Happens to be the quickest rising addiction going. Men who can't get turned on without porn, most end up forgoing the real thing and depending on the films alone, it's fast, easy, no wasting time with foreplay or plzing others, only what he wants/needs. Or the way he must close his eye's to picture the "other" girls face, instead of looking at the "same old" partner? Nor have we found a way to reverse the problem. And like women really need the competition when there's 1 boy born for every 4 girls, now we've learned why and that the problem will only worsen, we have no cure for this either.

Answer 3

Most of the women who make porn films are doing it just for the money, often because they're hopelessly addicted to drugs, and they later regret it. Every time you see a woman (or girl) in a porn you're looking at someone's daughter, sister, etc. and there are broken hearts behind every face you see, including behind the actress's own fake devilish grin.

But hey, I realize the sex drive is strong and can plow right through those reasons if you let it. How about this: you're damaging your own sexual health. People escape into porn to avoid intimacy and putting out the effort to be loving to their partner. It's so much easier to toss one off. Over time this becomes a habit, then you become less practiced at being intimate; it becomes more challenging and uncomfortable as you get older. Then comes the unrealistic expectations of women. Suddenly real women are a bore, then even a turn-off. In your late 30s, early 40s, you develop erectile dysfunction. And you're psychologically messed up by this point and it takes an incredible amount of dedication and self-control to work through it and be a normal guy again.

If you want a genuine, deep, committed and loving relationship with a real woman, please get your sexual stimulation from your own fantasies and from reality with your woman.

Peace and love, and good luck to you.

Answer 4

She gets upset because you are allowing the images of other women to turn you on. How about she started imagining a former lover or a pretend lover and calling his name instead of yours.
It is a betrayal. Your unwillingness to give up what you say isn't real just makes it worse. If the porn were so insignificant then you should be able to give it up. However, you don't care enough about how hurt she feels to give up the meaningless porn. What message do you think you are sending? Somewhere along your casual perusal of porn you became an addict. You have to decide what is important to you. Many marriages have ended because of porn. At some point just looking at pics and movies aren't going to be enough to stimulate you and you are going to have to 'up the anty' so to speak. Keep doing this and soon your wife will begin to look at other men for emotional support which will eventually become sexual.
If you want her to think you are serious then get rid of the internet until you can get your addiction under control and quit lying to yourself.

Answer 5

Well there are a certain group of women mostly psychotic feminists (not that all feminists are psychotic but some are) who have their own reasons which you can read about from someone else or insecure women who compare themselves to the women in porn because they have no real understandinf of why their lover is looking at porn. Oh and the religious types that just think porn is bad cause some guy in a funny hat said so. What should you do? Discover what kind of anti-porn women your wife is. The insecure type is best because she can learn that porn isn't so terrible and maybe even accept her own sexuality oneday, but if she's an antisex psychotic feminist or a religious person who believes in the voices of the funny hat man, just do it behind her back.

Answer 6

It just always amazes me how men can be so dumb. Think about it! First of all, you and your wife have bad communicaton skills. You need to get your head out of the porn and think about how this is making her feel. If you gave as much time to you and your wife's sex life as you do the pron, you wouldn't have time for the porn. You can't compare your sex life with your wife to a porn movie. These people that make these movies have perfect bodies and everything they do is to please a man. It's not real, it's a movie. No different than hollywood movies. Maybe your wife would like to know how it would be with Brad Pitt? See what I mean? Your wife gets upset because you give porn more time than you give to her. Because you are living in a dream world. You are cheating, in your mind, with the women in the pron films. What if your wife told you that she lusts after Brad Pitt and she spent her time watching his movies? Think it might make you feel a little insecure? Start being more romantic towards your wife and work on your real sex life with a real woman, your wife. You are married! Stop trying to live single. It's up to you make your home sex life comfortable and fulfilling for both of you. It is never going to be like it is in the porn movies so get real. A good sex life has to be worked on and it's built over a period of time through experimenting in the bedroom, talking about it and trust. It is all up to you. But, it doesn't just happen and it is not your wife's responsibility to do this all by herself, you have to be willing to get up off of your ***, turn the porn off and work on your own relationship with your wife. You sound very immature. You are having a hard time separating pretend from real.

Answer 7

The problem is you are hiding porn like you would do as a kid hiding from your mom. Pretty much every man likes porn and a lot of women do also. Be open about it, talk to your wife and stop hiding it.

Watch it with her, see if she likes it, go to a sex shop and try and find something she would like also, but never hide it from her.

There is nothing wrong with porn or liking it. However, since you are married, if she is totally opposed to it, you may have to make a compromise. Never say you will never **** to porn, unless you totally mean it.

It is about being open with your partner, there is nothing to be ashamed of, well besides that you hide porn from your wife, that is pathetic. Be a man about it and talk to her, she should be open enough to try watching it together.

Good luck man.

Answer 8

Because porn is made primarily for males some women see it as degrading. This is a shame because you can both get more out of your sexuality by watching porn, especially if you get your partner involved. You should show her a trick or two from your favourite porn movie!

Convincing her that porn is a wholesome part of your sexuality would be a better option than keeping it secret.

Answer 9

- God is a GGGGREAT Creator, wemon are incredible, His craftsmanship is past what mere words can describe. Porn showcases that, as per, case & point. Yet, it's the demonic push of it, that makes even nonreligious people stand their ground & oppose it. Don't waller in it bro, shake it off & spend time with her. Instead have her give you a back rub & ETC. ETC. Make us proud, YO ! ! !

Answer 10

Sounds like she feels threatened by it. Don't be surprised if she accuses you of cheating in the future. Some women see it as infidelity.
Find another way to spice up your sex life. Start by communicating.