Dear Friends,
This is my first love initially my girl friend told me she is virgin and I believed later she said she lost to a person who promised her that he will marry.
Also they had only once. I am worried and I want to forget what has happen to her.
Plz suggest me how could I change and love her how I started with her. If have sex with her can I forget the past and she really loving me a lot…When I heared that she as been cheated by ex boyfriend I cried a lot…
2007-01-09 22:38:50 · 4 answers · asked by jack k 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ask yourself.Do you love her ot not?If you do,then you will not commit the same mistake as that othe ridiot did.
2007-01-09 22:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kenneth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really truly loved her with all your heart you wouldnt have stopped loving her the same way. She is still the same person that you fell in love with when you thought she was still a virgin right? You must be really young. Think about it this way , lets say she never had a boyfriend before and the two of you decided to have sex she is still going to be the same girl when she makes love to you. Even though she had sex once before it will still be the first time for her having sex with you. How was she supposed to know that her x was a jerk and that they wouldnt get married and she would meet you. What happened yesterday happened and no matter what you do you cant change it nor can she so forget it . You and her are together now and that is all that should matter. The only reason i see that you should be tripping on it is if she would of had sex with some guy while you two were together then you would have a reason to trip. In all honesty I dont see what the big deal is about a girl being a virgin. If I were a man I would much rather perfer a woman who has had some experience and wont be curious what it would be like to be with another man and wont be acting all shy and stupid or crying in pain. Once you have sex with a virgin she isnt going to be a virgin anymore so what are you going to do ? Get another one? If she would of never told you about it you would of never known right? She is still the same girl. You'll understand more once you start having sex. I think you are just mad because you still havent had sex and she has.
2007-01-09 23:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't love. However, it is one of the very best ways to express love. Just because your girlfirend happened to have sex with someone in the past doesn't make her broken or ruined. If you truly love her then you should be able to forgive her for the past.
Do you fear that she will compare you to her ex? You have to determine if she is the kind of person that will do this, or if she will enjoy expressing her love to you enough that the past won't even enter in to the equation. If the two of you can believe together that love is bigger and broader than sex, and that sex is a wonderful way to become even more intimate and draw you closer to one another then I think you have no worries at all. If not, then someone in your couple doesn't truly love the other more than themselves (the pinnacle of love).
2007-01-09 23:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she love you? if hte answer is yes , what about the ex boy friend?
does she love him? or hate him? does she hate him because he broke his promiss. i believe that if you can forgive her it is good and well but can you do this?
it is a bit hard, I say
2007-01-09 22:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋