well my dauther moved out at 18,now stays with b/f with 2kids but not hers.He did have a very good job,but not now and I know she can do better but she says she loves him and they do fight alot,she cant even call me anymore bc he didnt pay his phone bill.How can I get her out? She needs out.
2007-01-09 22:37:07 · 10 answers · asked by bette69 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not much you can do until she decides she doesn't want that life anymore. Be a friend and be there for her.
2007-01-09 22:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by yummybubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything that you can do other than be there for her and let her know that she is welcome back when she is ready. The more you try to point out his bad points; the more she will try to defend him. If they argue alot then this is a good thing. If she knows you will keep a place for her ; she may just take you up on that.
Is she taking birth control? If so, then you can at least pay for that to ensure she doesn't give him a 3rd child. He has already demonstrated his irresponsibility by having the first 2 and moving a girlfriend in.
From time to time ; take her some groceries. If they aren't paying their phone bill; they probably arent' eating well.
Although, it isn't your responsibility to feed his family. Keep in mind that she is still your daughter and might appreciate the gesture. This could help tip the scales of good against her boyfriend.
Since you can't call then you have no other recourse than to stop by. Offer to take her to school to sign up for classes. Encourage her to pursue her education. There are Federal Grants she will probably be eligible for.
Good Luck!
2007-01-10 07:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 18. Legally she can make her own decisions. All you can do is let her know that you are there for her, no matter what. Go over to see her. Don't push your opinions onto her. She has a mind of her own. Just don't give up on her! Let her know she has a home and a family. Tell her you just want her to be safe and happy. The rest is--well how you brought her up. Trust that. She may not have looked like she was listening, but your could be surprised. Just love her and watch over her. Interfering with the life she has chosen will only separate you two more. Patience and faith. Good luck.
2007-01-10 06:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by girafflady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more u try to protect her the more she will move away from u and toward him, best to just let it end naturally which it will eventually. u can't always protect her from problems, as she is 18, and almost an adult and nothing u say even if it is logical will make a difference. has to be her decision. we do learn from our pain, so if she has to go through some things, it's okay. why not get her a cell phone, so u can talk with her. but just stay out of it, u have to allow her to make her own mistakes, that's how she will learn.
2007-01-10 12:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being that same girl when I was 18. Nothing anybody said or did would have made me leave. She will come to her senses and get out on her own. That is the only way she will ever leave anyway. She needs to do this on her own. It's the only way she will ever learn.
2007-01-10 06:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you need to let her figure this out for herself. I know it's hard for you to see your daughter unhappy but if you try to force her or control her life, you'll endup falling out with her and that's the last thing either of you need. You can offer your advise and be there for her where she needs you but she has to make her own way and if she is as unhappy, then she will eventually get out of the relationship. I have experienced this from your daughters point of view. When i was 17 i moved in with my boyfriend and as soon as i did he got violent with me. It took me a while to find the strength to leave but i did - and i did it on my own. If my mum had tried to force me it would have only made me more determined to stay with him. Your daughter needs to make her own mistakes so she can learn from them. Good luck and i hope everything works out. If you want to talk about it, please feel free to mail me.
2007-01-10 06:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by snottercat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 18 there's not much you can do. When she gets sick of the situation and wants out then you should be there for her. Until then all you can do is try to be supportive.
2007-01-10 06:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*You* can't get her out. She made her bed and now must lie in it. She has to realize on her own she needs out. Just let go and be supportive.
2007-01-10 06:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mom of a 22 year old, all I can say is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!
2007-01-10 10:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well betty put your self in her shoes ,she dosnt need mum preaching at her ,but be there when the sht hits the fan
2007-01-10 06:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋