mad , i think i because we are together i am more lippy can anyone give me any tips on how to stop this from happening as i love my job
2007-01-09 22:33:29 · 8 answers · asked by hayley b 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
you should both keep a professional manner at work (and out of work as this could give his business a bad reputation)
if you can't work together then maybe you shouldn't - or if you work well together but have other problems in your relationship then maybe you need to discuss these to resolve them!
2007-01-10 03:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by just trying to make a difference 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be better to work elsewhere. Being together 24 hours a day seems to be wrecking your relationship. Yours and his happiness is more important than work.
If you do carry on working together, you could try to be completely professional and respectful to your 'boss', even making a game or in-joke out of it by calling him Mr Smith or whatever his name is when you're at work.
About the rowing - Try not to give him advice on how to do his job or assisting with things he doesn't need assistance with, because you think its more 'caring'. It drives men up the wall. Its like an accusation of incompetence.
Rows are often caused by misunderstanding something that someone said or did. If he says something that you are about to react badly to, ask him calmly what he actually meant, without it sounding accusing, just a polite request for clarification. Don't just assume it means something else, based on previous experiences, and then start rowing about it. This can be useful in your leisure time as well. People often react to what something means to them, not to what the speaker meant.
If either of you is behaving in a way the other one doesn't like at work, then discuss it at work, at a time when you're calm. Discuss it calmly as just a technical problem to be fixed, not a great drama. Just agree to stop or start doing or saying something. Pay attention to whether you're both keeping calm and rational during the discussion and whether to continue now or another time or drop the matter as unimportant.
2007-01-09 22:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working together when you have an emotional relationship is almost always a bad idea. Unless you're married. Then it's a toss up.
But without the commitment of marriage -
if the relationship works out, it gets in the way of the work.
And if it doesn't work out and you break up, then it DEFINITELY gets in the way of the work.
A lose/lose proposition there.
My advice - get another office. In another company.
2007-01-09 22:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep your professional lif seperate from your personal life, and you both need to remember that he is your boss when at work and not your boyfriend.
you might want to give some thought to your relationship as well as I noticed you said you love your job.....no mention of your boyfriend?
2007-01-13 09:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it professional in the workplace or find another job doing the same type of work.
2007-01-09 22:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Make sure you do not share an office; make yours at least a couple of doors away from his.
2) Never discuss home stuff at work and vice versa
3) remember he can sack you for insubordination
2007-01-09 22:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are his Company Secretary, as opposed to a typist/receptionist/general dogsbody, then you can fire him - look it up.
2007-01-09 22:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not wanting to stir things up but i think hes sleeping with the secutary...
2007-01-09 22:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by kingericthe7th 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋