my hubby is filing a divorce again, he does'nt want the custody of his 3 children and I 'm not working for the past 15 years, women on experience how to prepare for divorce.
2007-01-09 22:28:50 · 11 answers · asked by ICE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consentrate on your children, give them the best as they have lost their father.Do not give them too much pressure, let them be happy.Talk to them about your plan.Don't keep it to yourself.Ask them how they feel.Dont keep the feeling to yourself
2007-01-10 01:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Skellinton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off remember this and don't ever forget it...... everyone changes when divorce papers are filed! And it gets worse after the filing. Next, open an account in your name only, start moving funds!! With that said...... Is there any chance you can save this marriage? Try talking to him, counseling, communication, therapy, pastoral counseling. If it cannot be saved then I would recommend a seperation agreement be drawn up, it does not have to be fancy if money is an issue. But it will protect you and get it notarized, and filed with the court. See if he will agree to pay alimony while you see employment or job training.
L.
2007-01-10 02:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a good lawyer. Once they say child support he may want the custody of his children. No matter how much you try and prepare for the finanical side of divorce you will never be prepared for the emotional side. If your children are of school age you will have to find a job to contribute to raising your children. Sucks but that is the law.
2007-01-09 23:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by the works 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get organized. If you have been in a long term marriage you are going to be entitled to 1/2 of everything. You need to know what you all own, what accounts you have, what debts you have and the current balances on all those accounts. You need to know what the investments are, what the retirement savings is, what the house is worth.
Second you need to start thinking about what you will do to support yourself. Yes, you will get child support and alimony but you need to step up and support yourself and your children as well. You need to think about what your skills are, what your interests are. Look at going back to school. If you can show a judge what your plan is you are more likely to get alimony during that time.
Third, you need to find a lawyer and start talking to her right away about all of this.
Fourth, you need to emotionally prepare you and your children for the divorce.
Fifth, you need to promise yourself that no matter how ugly the divorce gets, no matter how much your ex makes you angry you will never, ever put your kids in the middle. You need to protect his relationship with them as much as you protect your relationship with them.
Finally, try and look at this as a time for a fresh start, a chance to remake your future and yourself.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 22:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by CV 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just sit back and wait for him to file and have you served. In the mean time you need to make preparations for this divorce.
If you have a joint account----(go to the bank and close the account and move any and all monies into an account that bares your name only) this means checking, savings, CD's, TD's)
Obtain employment---you're going to need a means of supporting yourself once this divorce is put into motion! You can't depend on child support, spousal support each month as a means of supporting yourself!
Make preparations to obtain one good credit card (VISA, MASTERCARD) in your own name. This is to help establish you in the credit world.
Your spouse may say right now he doesn't want custody but when it come right down to the nitty gritty----he'll change his mind....(trust me on this ----I work in a family law firm) Men say one thing and do another when it's being put down on paper!
Seek out new friends and the help of family to help you through the hard times and use them for emotional support.
Good luck
2007-01-09 22:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a lawyer,you should be entitled to alimony,child support and if he has a pension plan 1/2 of it also.
2007-01-09 22:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a low cost/free lawyer you can find them by asking social services also they will go after him for child support
go to your local unemployment office and find out about going back to school for a career.. you can get alot of help
2007-01-09 23:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a good lawyer.
2007-01-09 22:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by yummybubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out sounding like your ex to be,why havent you worked? and now you are wonderin who is going to keep you in the manner you deserve
2007-01-09 22:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try talking about divorce more often...
2007-01-09 22:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by X_JAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋