what would you do if you don't love your husband anymore, but you have a child with him already?

Answer 1

Hey there,

Not an easy thing to ask... Honestly I think you are the only one that can answer this truly. The very fact that you are asking means there is a problem somewhere. I really think it is a huge decision for all of you. I think you need to try and go away for a night or weekend so you can be on your own to think things through properly.

Are you sure that it's not a phase? I don't mean that to sound cruel. I'm just wondering is there something either you or he can do or change that might help??

Either way take your time and really think about your relationship now and what life would be like without him. I do agree that if you're not happy in the relationship you should move on with your life and allow him to do the same. Not easy I know!! As for the fact you have a child, well, again.. If you are not haapy at home etc then how can you expect your child to be truly happy? It's not an ideal situation but the one thing you MUST remember - No matter what happens between your husband & you, he is your child's father. You must not interfere with that relationship. In fact you must help it to grow if you decide that leaving is the best option.

I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide.

Answer 2

I've been wondering and thinking about that question a lot.
When u have children with someone u know that u have to sacrifice a lot of things. But u can hurt your children as much as u can hurt yourself by staying in a relationship when u don't love your spouse anymore. I think u should talk to a psychologist or somewhere were you can get help.
You dont always have to seperate from ur husband as fast as u stop love him, sometimes u can need some space, go a way for a while, To a relative or somewhere where u can think about it alone, and try to understand what u self want to do. This is a hard question and u might need some help, but u seem to have a lot of patience.. I wish u all my best, i can't give u any good advices but talk to someone and think about it, and maybe ur husband feels the same way 2.? maybe u have a lack of communication, talk to each other.. hope everything will get well soon

Answer 3

Hi Honey! Tell him that you need to talk to him, then sit down and say your feelings have changed & you feel you don't love him anymore. you would like to split up but would like him to see the child as much as he can so that the child dosn't get to affected by the sudden change.
Ask if he could start looking for a place of his own, so not to cause too much upheaval to the bairn.
Be nice about it, you can't help your feelings, he will be upset and this is probably the hardest thing you will do in a longtime.
But if you are unhappy, then you need to solve it ... Life is tooo short. Your bairn will be happy if Mummy is Happy and if they see their father regularly then it should work out fine.
P.s. Make sure you let the Bairn know that you will always love her/him and that will never changed (Unlike your love for Daddy)
Good luck honey
Life is so short, make the time you got here happy!
Big Smiles
x

Answer 4

Hi
Im a 18 year old girl who lived with mum and dad and a year ago my dad suddely my dad left on the 1st of october after an hour of telling me and my mum. I wont lie i went off the rails blammed myself cried every day. But a year on i see and talk to my dad more than when i did when he lived with me. But although you are a mother you also are a human being. I blammed my mum and dad for him leaving. But you no what i would of blammed myself if he stayed just for me and still living unhappy. My mum coped really well we managed to keep the house and he bought a new one. Stay on talking terms i hate it if the argued as my dad still comes around. Christmas will be the hardest make sure your child sees you both christmas. But dont forget you want the best for your child but you also cant live unhappy. It will be terible for the child no matter the age but in the end they will understand
Hannah xx

Answer 5

I just want to provide you with a mans point of view who is going through that very something my Wife doesn't Love me any more and she has told me she wanted to split up but.... She has told others that she is just staying with me because she can't afford to live on her own .... I can tell you no matter what you are going to do always communicate with him it can make all the difference on how happy you both will feel ..... If you are going to leave him do it and get it over with because as long as you are together ....If he is like me ... in the back of his mind he will be thinking is there still hope to save this marriage.
I wish you luck

Answer 6

why do you say you don't love him? It all depends on your definition and a lot of people confuse lust with love. Are you sure you don't mean you are no longer in lust with him. Try and bring the sparkle back into your relationship with him. Get a baby sitter once a week and go on a date together; do the things you did when you were courting; see what happens.

Answer 7

This is the same question that millions of women ask themselves every day. You are a mother so you have to think what's best for the child.

Answer 8

you cant stay with him if you dont love him sugar ... tell him .. yuo have to be open with him the last thing he would want is you going behind his back ... talk to him and if it all ends up with you splitting up then let it be ... you can talk and sort out arangements for them to see your child ... dont forget the child is going to be stuck in the middle and it wont be easy ... make sure whatever you do is the right thing to do ... i hope it all turns out ok soon xx

Answer 9

I would be asking myself "Did I input all that I should have done to save the relationship" Communication seems to be a by word these days.

Answer 10

i would leave him, the child will get used to it and do you want your child to know when its older that you stayed with its father just for he/she? be happy and you dont need a man to do that