Any tips for dealing with an occasionally violent woman.?

Question

I dont want to hurt her and I have never hit a woman, but she threatened to "glass" me at the weekend and assualted me today.
She has just stared anti-psychotic drugs and she drinks too much

... i love her and leaving is not an option.
Would you leave your best friend in a scarey place ?

Answer 1

hide the glass, the knives and the vodka. also get her to a shrink immediatly. stand by her.

Answer 2

So she is psychotic. She is disconnected from reality. Who knows, maybe voices from the toaster oven tell her to do things. She could be schizophrenic - or she could have any number of serious and hard-to-treat mental illnesses, The newer generation anti-pyschotic medications I understand are quite effective and have far fewer side effects than the old. Can she be trusted to take her meds? The drinking problem is seriously compounding the mental health problem. It sounds like she's highly unstable, and NOW has become danger to others. For her own good - and your safety- she could be assessed at the emergency clinic of any hospital and she will be kept in there for however long it takes to get her stable. She might need to spend a few weeks in your friendly-neighbourhood hospital psyche ward. Violence won't work, or even the threat of violence. You can't frighten her into being a Good Girl: she is psychotic and a drunk, remember?

Good Luck with that: it's a really tough call,

Answer 3

Don't be such a damn fool. The "assault", in whatever form it took, is just the beginning, and by letting her get away with it you give her the starting point for the next time. This isn't hypothetical - this is how women end up in abusive relationships - they let him get away with it once, and that set the template. "Oh, he's all right ... he just has a temper on him when he's had a drink ... ". Yeah, right. The fact that the genders are reversed in this situation is of no consequence at all. Having a pair of spuds won't help you if she attacks from behind with a knife or goes for you while you are asleep. You are on a hiding to nothing and your unwillingness to do anything about it increases the danger. Get out of this destructive relationship now.

Answer 4

The best advice at this point of time is that you don't want to hurt her SO DO YOU WANT HER TO HURT YOU THATS A point to think,do you want to get abused by her physically and mentally stress???
This lady needs pschyiatric help and the best way is if you try your way to help her she won't understand and even may not agree your assitant so the best way is to Leave Her and move on because your playing with fire.Please do not risk yourself and learn to respect yourself first or else her ill treatment towards you would be so intensely influenced in your life that you will land up hurting someone innocent yourway because of Her.
You have been gifted a a good life live it well with the best people.
Influence your with people whom can be inspirations rather than a nightmare,please do not let a violent women control your emotions and feelings,its just not worth it,it would ultimately land you up living a low esteem life with less confidence and you don't want to live it that way,would you???
Its a matter of your life think about yourself first.
Love thyself don't let anyone hurt you no matter what.
You are a best friend to yourself first then others come in the picture.think about it.

Answer 5

Leaving is most definitely an option. Actually, it is THE option. She obviously does not respect you. Respect is a big aspect in love relationships. She's also a danger to you. If you're not willing to leave her then just separate until she can get the help she needs. She has to work through this before she can be healthy enough for a relationship with you.

Answer 6

Explain to her when she is in 'a good place' how you feel and that you love her and want to be with her but the violence has to stop. If she is not violent with others, she is probably aware of what she is doing and knows that she can treat you badly and you will accept it. It would be better if she didn't drink, but you would have to support her in this and perhaps not drink either (if you do that is) Also look at the reasons as to why she wants to assault you. Communication when you are both sober and sensible is the key.

Answer 7

You should get in touch with your doctor or local mental health authority (may be called crisis team) today. Do it straight away and they will advise you. If you wont at least do it anonymously. Do not tell her what you are doing as its unlikely she will agree.

She must get help. It is extremely dangerous to drink on that medication. For her and potentially everyone she comes into contact with.

Domestic Violence almost always gets worse..if this is happening you must consider your options and think about ending the relationship

Answer 8

She has a major problem. Im sure i dont need to tell you that drinking alcahol and taking prescription drugs is a bad idea and irresponcible on her part. If you stay with her your playing with fire, Your risking your life. Its hard to know what she is capable of in her condition.
She needs to stop drinking!!

GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. You will be giving her a wake up call.

Answer 9

Get her to clean her act up.

Get her off the drink & drugs (even if prescribed).

Dianetics is very good therapy and works for most people but the addictions need to be confronted initially.

If she won't clean her act up, you should really consider leaving as things will only get worse

Answer 10

You did not say what your relationship was with her.
Its the alcohol talking. Get her to rehab, AA or the mental health clinic for assessment.
If she is capable of normal life when sober without alcohol, there might be hope that medications will keep her controlled.

Answer 11

You have to get out of this relationship before it gets worse. My ex was violent and the longer i stayed with him the worse it got, it's always harder to leave the longer a relationship goes on. For both your sakes end it now.