always at a time when I'm not going to be there. For example, a friend of mine, who's the same age as me comes to the house when I'm at work and leaves before I come home from work! Then another friend rings home at a time when they know I'm at work and now the latest, my uncle who I've not seen in 10 years, is coming down to see my mum between the hours when I'll be at work! I know that my mum gets on very well with my friends, but I am starting to wonder if people are deliberately trying to avoid me. I'm quite a shy person and not very worldly. Is this why? I do make occasional friends, but when I bring them home, my mum gets on so well with them and it seems they prefer her to me.
2007-01-09 21:50:31 · 12 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Please don't tell me to move out - it's not possible at the moment.
2007-01-09 21:55:54 · update #1
No, my friends don't work.
2007-01-09 22:40:04 · update #2
i think your getting paranoid darling if these people like you they will come round where ever you are and if they are avoiding you whit ch i dont think they are they are not worth being friends take care darling and just chill hope this helps
2007-01-09 22:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not intentional. Maybe your first friend just feels comfortable at your house so popped round (just in case you'd skived work) - and then had to leave as she had to get home for her tea.
For the second friend, she's probably just a bit ditsy and didn't realise the time, or thought you might be skiving/day off so it was worth while dropping in to see
As for the uncle - he's probably travelling a long way down/back in one day so won't be there when you are - and how about taking the day off, or a half day when he IS there. He won't even think you would want to see him.
Or, you can just believe the voices in your head, quit your job and sit by the window all day to catch out these people who think they will be missing you :)
2007-01-10 19:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by cornwall_seo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In real life, some acts and didst luck logical explanations. Your case is one typical example, from personal experience I used to blame the obvious, racism etc. But now I know loving to do what I have to do in the course of the day independent of others is a better solution. U too can be alone and still behold your positive attitude. If u persuade others to like u, it might work for the wrong reason!
Remain calm, and love every day work, remind yourself too that day's work/education must be done before going to bed; don't rash to bed early, as it will simply leave u a dull person next day, adding to your troubles.
2007-01-10 12:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by seesunsuf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends and tell them that you miss spending time with them, and schedule a get-together when you're off work. If they continue stopping by when you're not home, try to meet new people. I know that can be difficult since you are shy. I really think it's just a coincidence and your friends are not avoiding you. They probably work too, and their jobs might have them off when you're working and vice versa. Don't worry so much. And don't feel weird about your mom getting along with your friends- they can like both of you. Talk to your mom if it is really bothering you, but I think this will work itself out. Dont worry! :)
2007-01-10 06:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by mlsandersml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found this before. The best way is to try and become more confident... I am a shy person aswell, have you tried talking to your mum about your concern? most importantly don't pretend to be something you're not, i did this and caused problems for me. Keep making friends because you will always have at least one you can depend on,
good luck
2007-01-10 09:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you work too much, or work odd hours. And one more thing, I think you need to focus on the positive side of life, people aren't avoiding you... they come when it's conveinent for them. How about you take work off when your uncle comes there... I bet you guys will have an awesome time!
-Good luck
2007-01-10 07:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more helpful to know your work schedule. While I was in university , living with my sister, I worked a shift that placed me at odds with everyone else' schedules.
To the layman it would've appeared that my friends were visiting my sister in lieu of me, but it was on account of my dreadfully odd hours 14:00 hrs - 23:00 hrs.
I will say that the engagement of my sister and my mate Yosef, who previously thought she was a daft tart, in retrospect, did not come out of nowhere.
2007-01-10 17:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always best to learn a trade from the master. Watch and listen to what your mother says to them and what she does. Also ask her what you can do to be accepted by other people. Remember that your friends are like family if they like your mum there is nothing wrong with that
2007-01-10 19:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by cool runings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see popsy .....its not bad that people prefer your mother more than you.by my thought you should try to learn something from your mother, don't be shy always,behave like people feel comfortable with you.if you feel your friends avoid you call them on a party or something like party and make them enjoy but don't forget to enjoy yourself.if they feel you are happy they will also feel happy with you and gradually give you the same importance like your mother.
2007-01-10 06:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by niki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be over sensitive to this. Why not invite your friends over when your mother is out?
2007-01-10 13:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋