my husband has been deployed to iraq. during this time, i've tried to go out and have fun with my friends, but i've not felt like going out. my husband has been putting pressure on me, as well as my friends, to hang out and get out of the house because it's not healthy. mind you, i am comfortable being by myself. i do get moments of depression because i'm lonely for my husband. friends can do only so much - they cannot replace my husband. i'm recently enrolled in college and will be busying myself with that to keep my mind clear. i also have planned taking a class where i can work out to be more healthy physically. i know that this will not be enough for me. i'm hit with extreme insomnia, depression, anger towards people, and irritation towards people from time to time. thing is, i don't want to hang around people just so they can keep me from thinking of how lonely i am. it's hard to explain, but if anyone has advice, please share it with me.
2007-01-09 21:28:38 · 5 answers · asked by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hello! From one spouse to another (my husband is also deployed right now) I too would rather spend time holed up alone in my own home than be out partying or what not with friends!
It's normal! You tend to figure out who you really are as a person during deployments! Is this your first? This is my second, and I'm in Germany, FAR away from my friends and family. Yes I have friends here in Germany, but it isn't the same! When I read that you had insomnia I knew I had to respond I too have this problem and it's killing me when it comes to work. Now that I know I'm not the only one I should check into this myself!
I honestly think that with school and a work out plan you are going to have a lot to keep you busy! How many hours are you taking? Try to take a full load if you aren't working. As for working out, you ALWAYS feel better about yourself and physcially once you've been going for a little bit!
You don't have to explain what you are going through to me. I'm in the same situation. Just remember that your husband wants you to be happy while he's gone, even though he might act upset or angry that you are home and he isn't. I've been through this. Keeping yourself happy is vital to your support for your husband and ups the chances of your marriage working out when he comes back! Don't close yourself off to the world, just find new ways to explore yourself and your interests! This time apart should be used to develop a better/new you.
2007-01-09 21:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the situation you described reveals more then deployment blues...it sounds more like the start of a depression. It's essential to reach out for help before you get to a point where you will no longer have the energy to pull yourself away from the darkness. The longer you wait the harder it will be to bounce back.
I think you need to find support and confide in a close friend or family. Someone who can listen in a non judgmental way and someone who you trust to take action with your best interest in mind.
You need to see a doctor, a psychologist and join a support group ASAP. Deployment is a difficult time and it comes with its own set of life changing challenges. Allowing yourself to get sick will not change the course of the deployment. Instead, it can ruin your life.
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2007-01-09 21:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 19:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be moderately clinically depressed. Yes, it;s "situaltional depression" but left untreated it could very possibly get WORSE. If you get worse a cycle may develop where you get more depressed, more often. Not getting an early depressive episode attended to can pay the way for many more to come. It actually changes the physiology of your brain. In order to avoid the possibility of this horrible thing happening I think you should speak to your doctor. Your symptoms:
-lethargy
-insomnia (extreme in your case)
-sad thoughts, feelings
-irritability
-social withdrawl
Ask your doctor for his opinion to be on the safe side.
2007-01-09 22:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check on base, especially with you husbands unit, about a wives support group. It is not a group where they just sit around and cry, but a group to help each other with being active and social. Give it a shot.
2007-01-09 21:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rick R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋